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Can people change or is it a knee jerk reaction

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Turnipsandpotatoes · 21/11/2020 14:41

Hi. 2nd post here so please be kind. After my 1st post I did finally move myself and my kids to a new home with their own rooms. I remained friends with my ex husband to be, and we did kind of date because as pathetic as I sound I love him and the sadness of the future dreams we had I couldn't bare to let go.but over the past 2 months though I have realised that dating is not what I want., I cant do it so I have been pulling away (he hasn't seen or spent any time with us as a family just me which speaks volumes if I had chose to listen).he now wants to make amends, to leave where we were together, be the step dad he should have been and live together. He isnt worried now about where his darling adult kids can sleep over in my new home, i feel its a knee jerk reaction. And I wanted to know if anyone has had this and it has worked out. He had issues years ago with being a family, he doesnt feel cut out for it and was going to seperate but then he tried again and then with what happened in the summer it wasn't just over my kids having their own room there was more to it..I just feel he will try so hard and then slip back into this mood in time. But the heart in me which loves him does want to believe him. I know I will always wonder if I made the right choice.
Sorry for mumbling on.please be kind with your advice

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Horseradish01 · 21/11/2020 16:33

I don’t know the back story here but no, I don’t think people do really change.
It’s hard to end a relationship which is why so many people stay in bad ones, but if it’s fine wrong before and you’re having doubts now, your doubts are for a reason

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