How did you know you’d fallen in love?

[Tabbytabbycat]

Just that really. I can’t even begin to picture what being in love it like anymore.

*is!

It haunts you, you feel drawn to them. There's a certain inevitability about it.

Because you just know. I can't really explain it any other way.

@Oneliner inevitably in a good way? An excited way or resigned way?

In no particular order: matching moral values, potential future growth as a team, romantic desire for each other, communication on the deepest level.

Don't get it muddled with lust.

For e the beginning of falling is marked by a feeling of emptiness and longing for that peeson, immediatelly after they go. So I miss them, deeply, even if I know I will see them soon.
I also carry this feeling forever, and I am the happiest when I am beside my DH.

I just knew. Something in my chest felt like it physically clicked into place and I just felt like I'd come home. I never had a moment of doubt and I knew he felt the same.

He passed away 3 weeks ago and I'm just praying that one day I get to experience something similar again because having had it I could never settle for less, and the loss of that soul connection is agonising.

I lost a stone.

Oh @peachgreen

@peachgreen I'm so sorry for your loss. What a lovely way you describe love.

For me, the moment I knew I was in love was when I realized that I had seen him every day for 21 consecutive days and couldn't wait to see him the next day. I normally need a lot of alone time and breaks from people. But with DH I felt completely at home. Still do 9 years later.

Sorry, I didn't mean to bring the thread down. We had 7 incredibly happy years together and I feel utterly blessed to have had them - they were more than worth this pain.

@peachgreen

Sending you a big at a hard time.
X

I stopped noticing other men. Stopped picking up their messages because I only wanted messages from one person.

I wanted him to come to friend’s houses with me and to meet his little boy when before I would have found that suffocating. Imagined going on holiday with him and looking after him. The usual I suppose but it can feel different for everyone.

And yes. Absolutely a feeling of being at home.

This is so cliched and it's typical of my teenage self. I've been in love a few times but this one really stands out to me. I'd been seeing this boy, I was 18, and we clicked so well.

He fell asleep in my sofa and I'd put on some Love Songs greatest hits on the CD player. ' Suddenly' by Billy Ocean came on and I remember looking at this boy and thinking 'OMG, I love you'. I felt overpowered by my love and the song lyrics (as a teen, it was always about the lyrics!).

When I went to Uni I missed him so much, I'd clog up the uni phone by talking to him for hours.
We were together 4 years and I've been in love since but you never forget your first love.

I felt safe enough to sleep in his bed.

I've had my share of bad experiences and never really felt safe sleeping in a man's bed. Sex is one thing, sleep is the ultimate in vulnerability.

I just knew. Couldn't rememember his name at that point as we'd just met but I watched him across the crowded pub and had a weird image of him holding our baby. I felt like he'd been there all along. Even though I'd just met him. I'm sure it was chemical or something, it was powerful.

The very first guy I fell for I knew about 6 months in. I was in hospital seriously ill and was touch and go for the night. Heard the doctors say I may not make it and all I thought was I need to tell this guy how I feel. Sent him a rambling text which luckily he said the same thing the following morning. We’ve been split up now for a few years though.

We’d been casually dating for about a year. Neither of us has used the L word. We had to attend a works conference in Copenhagen and he went to great lengths to make it special and took me to a beautiful restaurant. I think I loved him before that day but was too scared to admit to it myself never mind him. He opened up to me that night in a way he hadn’t previously and was completely vulnerable and in a ridiculously Hollywood clichè way I knew I was utterly in love with him we’d go on to have a family.

These are lovely.

For me I agree with peachgreen It was the absence of doubt, and despite many reasons why it shouldn't work on paper and should be a complete disaster there was never a question in my mind that it would work and I knew he felt the same. I didn't actively think "this is it" but there was a certainty I'd never felt before.
There's also a depth to our relationship that, even 10 years later, I still feel like we have more to discover.

I know I’m in love with him (trust me- I’m 43 and until he came along I thought it wasn’t real to feel this way).... it’s hard to explain. He’s my human version of “home”. You know how if you’ve had a long day at work or wherever and all you can think about is coming home? That feeling when you finally get home and you’re so grateful to be there?... he’s that for me x

@peachgreen I responded to op then read the other responses. I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine 💐💐💐💐

We had been together a few months and we were in a cinema watching stardust and their was some moment in the film where he made some sympathetic noise and I remember just squeezing his hand and thinking wow I love him...it was a strong feeling - he was clueless

@Tabbytabbycat mostly resigned but not without excitement. I'm referring to falling in love with the right guy. I'd been in love before, but there was a certain understanding that this was a better fit for me, that was the inevitability. I had some work to do to get there and my instinct was to run away at first. I'm very glad I went running back though as we're a very happy content family now. I hope we have the rest of a long life together, covid permitting!