What does it take to realise you’re done?

[mumof1x]

Been with my OH for 4 years now, however, if it wasn’t for our child, I would have ended it a long time ago.

I feel like I’m a mum to him as all jobs are my jobs, the running of the house, looking after our daughter, etc. He very rarely lifts a finger and when he does you would think he’d done me a favour. We do split the bills but other than that, we have our own bank accounts. I also wouldn’t ask for financial help from him so he couldn’t make any sarcy comments about this.

We haven’t been intimate for a while, I feel like he loves his own reflection and he sometimes makes comments about things which I feel are more digs at me... i.e. coming in from a night shift to a warm bed and not having to make conversation with me. Surely that’s not a normal thing to say to your partner?

I’m nervous about splitting up but I do feel like it’s probably where we’re heading as there is no talk of another baby or marriage... I just want to be happy and I don’t feel like he’s the person to make me happy. Just looking for any advice on how people have decided enough is enough and ended their relationship?

Thanks (and apologies for the rambling!)

sounds like you are done.

move on... its easier than you think...

I think you're ready and you know it isn't right.
Be strong and for you.

I split with my DS's Dad 2 years ago. It was hard for the first few months but instantly loved not having to "look after" him and having my own space with no negativity around.

I was worried about dating and finding someone else when I had a young child but it's not been an issue at all.

You've got a lot of years left to live. There's no point in sticking in an unhappy relationship if you think it's done and there's nothing left to save.

We don’t argue either, it’s more silent treatment when we annoy each other which I’m nervous our daughter picks up on. Any tips on how to have such an awkward conversation?

Ew he sounds charming

I chose to raise my dd as a single parent than be with someone I did not love or even like. But my personality doesn’t work well being around someone 24/7 that I don’t like regardless if children are involved are not.

I think you need to get your ducks in a row, so sort out living arrangements and such before having this discussion. He's probably not going to want to lose a cook, maid and financial support in one fell swoop, is he?

Silent treatment is a control tactic...

Get your ducks in a row and run for freedom!

What's the housing set up - rent/mortgage? Both on the tenancy agreement?

I knew I was done when every week night I dreaded the key in the front door that it was back from work and peace about to be shattered.

And when you notice couples shopping together when you yourself choose to spend time alone then and using supermarket trip as an excuse to get an hours peace.