Hi beautiful ladies, I’ve been hoing through ups and downs with my boyfriend, we have been together now for 3 years, I began to live with him on Jan 2020, he is older than me by 17 years I am 32 turning 33.
My job is bad job, he has an excellent job, even though with the pandemic they have reduced his hours and all he does from some time ago is say that he does not have money, he is always complaining about this, yet he has an efficiency that he rents next door to ours for 800 dollars, and also he inherited tge house if he deceased ex wife.
His ex wife died in 2019, they had been divorced for 7 years, no children, only some dogs, her death hit him really hard, no ine was expecting his reaction not even his family, I think he never cut his umbilical cord from his ex wife, which was older than him, he came to this country from Latin America with nothing, he met her when they both were working in a restaurant, he got married with her when he was 30 and she was 43, they lasted 9 years together ( many people have told me that he perhaps got married to her for a legal status in this country) I believe this can be true, even his friends say he got married with her because he was thankful that she had helped him, especially him being a foreigner with nothing especial n this country ( USA).
The point after she died he kind of changed, he has gotten better, he is renting the home he inherited from her , her dogs were there with the people who are renting cause they knew the 2 dogs and 3 cats, but their agreement was they stay over there with them and the rent was cheaper. But all of a sudden my bf with his “economic” problems had to bring all 5 animals to our small house and increase the rent to the other people.
This has been insane to me, I have really began to love this animals but its very hard work 😓, he wants me to help him in everything, and ut bothers me a little because it was not my idwa to bring them here, it was his.
Also due to his economic problems which he has been having for quite some time now, he cannot slerp well, so he goes to the other room and sleeps with the dogs, the reason is because he likes to sleep with the TV on cause apparently it relaxes him, I CANNOT sleep with the TV on, I like yo sleep dark, so sometimes he does sleep with me cause I guess ge us sleepier, and others he stays with me for a while and then in the middle of the night he leaves to the other room.
I don’t know if I should believe him about all of this, or if he is just making all this up to not slerp with, or because he is just not that into me, somethings show me he is into me and other just show he is not.
I have allergies and congestion and even my family had told him that the animals would not be a good idea to bring them here, and it’s like he cleaned his soul with that and brought them anyway, just to increase the rent to the people in that other house.(due to his financial situation).
Sometimes I get the feeling he is using me at his own convenience, he wants to control, since I clean the hoyse, do laundry, etc, nothing is enough for him, he wants more and more, this guy might even be a narcissist if you think about, if I do something good he will pick point at something, nothing is ever enough or good, it’s the impression I am getting from some time ago.
Should I leave him for good?, why is he acting this way, like the victim and like if I was always the bad one, that does everything wrong? Is it because of my shitty job or what?