I did post this in aibu but only got one response. I just don’t know what is best, is contact with a child’s father always in their best interest? I just want reassurance I guess, as I don’t know if it’s causing more harm than good. I’ve tried hard for my children to have a relationship with their father but I’m not sure if it’s always for the best? He was absent for 3 years and now sees them once a fortnight for the day, he is unable to take them to his house (he has lodgers) so doesn’t have them overnight, he won’t change this and wants once a fortnight contact only. I don’t know if it is doing more harm than good, my son said today “why doesn’t dad like us, are dads suppose to live with you?” I didn’t really know how to answer, he went on to say “is it too late to get a new dad? I wish I had a different dad” this made me feel really bad, so I guess I’m asking is contact always for the best? I know people say let children figure it out for themselves etc, but when he was absent I didn’t have any of these questions from him he kind of just accepted it.