Hello, I have split up from my ex this year. He was quite controlling but in a subtle way. He's moved out and brought his own home and I managed to buy our home from him. We weren't married but have 2 children now depending 50/50 time. He isn't paying childcare as he says I still owe him out of the sale. I've survived so far on rapidly depleting savings and have found employment after not having worked for years but doing part-time. I'm early 50's. He's bi - sexual but I suspect more gay. He was emotionally cold, unloving and hasn't cared for me in reality in years.
My Yr 7 son has has ASD suddenly claiming that I tried to suffocate him after on a morning I tried to get him to get dressed for school (was doing anything but,) do tickled him out of my bed that he'd hid in. He's told his dad this. My daughter was in the room at the time ( Yr5). My ex sent me a text saying what my son had said. It was only that my daughter was there that I was believed by him. My son now whilst at his dad's when I phoned to speak to him a few days on said that I didn't care for him and that I hurt him by shouting and pinching him. He's told his dad he's scared of me. His dad doesn't answer my text or get the children to speak to me. My sons off school due to a covid case in class and because of my job in care I can't risk contact. Finding this very hard to deal with. Feel my ex is damaging my relationship with both children.