Baby, affair, friends?

[Medusara]

Will try to post short version, can add details if needed.
My wife and I have a three month old baby. I’ve just found out my wife is having an affair. She wants to be with the new woman, she’s not in love with me anymore. But she wants us to still be friends, live together, and raise the children together.

I’m going loopy, I thought we were happy and stable and a frankly awesome couple!

Any thoughts or advice?!

You can raise a child successfully as co parents, but frankly your relationship is over. Continuing to live together would be detrimental to all involved.

That’s so incredibly selfish of her, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. A key question is are you named on your child’s birth certificate? This will give you parental responsibility and ensure that whatever you decide, you have access to your child. If you have not yet registered the birth together personally I would play along until you do and then make decisions from there.

Yes we’re both named - baby was made from her egg which I carried, and we’re married, so we both have PR and there is no risk there.

Whoa hang on, you are expected to be over the betrayal and just accept this new set up? No way. You dont need to live together. Sounds like your ex wants everything on her terms and you just have to suck it all up. Don't be a mug.

Your ex should move out - why should she get to have her cake and eat it?

Must be such a shock to have this happen.
I recommend visiting surviving infidelity.com lots of advice and people to chat with in the same boat.

Big hugs

@BaronessWrongCrowd

Must be such a shock to have this happen. I recommend visiting surviving infidelity.com lots of advice and people to chat with in the same boat.

Big hugs

Oh thank you, I’ll go and investigate :)