Advice pleaseeee!

[iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto]

Name changed.

Please have a fucking word with me.

I've been with my partner a year and a half. We've had our issues. He adores me, wants to marry etc. I'm on a completely different page, waiting for it to feel normal, it's just not coming.

Now, I want to say he treats me amazing, is lovely, etc.... but it's not right.

I'm so so so so unhappy. But I feel bad.

The issue (besides many others) is that he has nowhere to go. So I have to live with him while he looks for somewhere else.

I've ended things tonight, he's gone bed playing ignorant. He will wake up and pretend all is ok. I need the strength to say I've not changed my mind because it's not fair on me, it'a not fair on me.

This will be the 6th time I've tried to end it in 15 months. But I feel his reliance on me. But we have nothing in common, he annoys me constantly. I just have no patience.

Won't say too much but he's done things that have destroyed our relationship.

Please please please help. I need the strength to leave. I'm so desperately unhappy. I just don't want to hurt anyone.

You don't have to live with him! Give him one week to find somewhere else. Is it your house? Any kids? If he refuses to go, call the police.

If only it was that simple

Anyone?...

Is it your house?
as PP says, give him a week or so to find somewhere else.
in the meantime, he sleeps in the spare room/on the sofa...

are you worried that he might kick off if you end the relationship?
does he have an income?

maybe you can ask someone to be with you when you ask him to leave, if you feel you haven't the strength to do it by yourself.

@iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto

If only it was that simple

Why is it not that simple?

Yes, what's not simple about the situation? Tell him to leave. If he won't then call the police. No use saying "If only" and not explaining the difficulties.

In the absence of information to the contrary, it is that simple. The emotions might feel overwhelming but ultimately it is that simple.

You've asked him to leave 6 times and he's refused. Reading between the lines it sounds like there may be coercive control.

Why is hurting yourself ok?

Get him out and get yourself support / therapy.

Whose house is it? It is simple if you make it so. You don’t want to be with him, so don’t be. He’s relying on you backing down and for some temporary pain you’ll get through this. Stand your ground and either leave, or make sure he does. Good luck

If it’s your house it’s very simple. 15 months is a very short relationship. Tell him to leave. End of.

You tell him to leave, and call the police if he refuses. It really is that simple. I can't decide if you're a mug or a martyr. Perhaps both.