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Feeling bad about booty call

39 replies

Cw2307 · 18/11/2020 15:34

Please not I had to post on this subject as the "sex" subject wont allow me yet

If you find casual sex or one night stands offensive then please just move along from this thread as I really don't want the judgement.

I came out of a long term relationship in August (about the last 6 months were not happy ones) I was really cut up and worried about being on my own etc feeling like that was it for me in the love department as at 27i see most people my age happy and married etc. Anyway fast forward almost 4 month.. I am the happiest I have been in a long time. I feel like I have lost a load of unwanted baggage.. I feel like I can breathe again and mentally Im in a good place.. Or so I thought.. Today I went round to a guys house for a cup of tea.. (yes a cuppa of all things😂) I have been talking to this guy for about a month now and I know him as we stay in the same town and have mutual connections etc. Anyway one thing led to another today and we ended up having sex.. Sorry for tmi..and now I feel awful about myself. I hate myself for jumping into bed with someone and for having so little self control 😭. My question is should I feel bad? Or why do I feel bad. Its almost like I feel like a dirty little tart 😂. Please tell me I'm not alone and this feeling will shift.

OP posts:
StarlightLady · 18/11/2020 17:33

OP, you only felt bad because “men’s rules” say we shouldn’t have needs.

wizzywig · 18/11/2020 17:55

Yay! A 'happy' ending!

blindinglyobviouslight · 18/11/2020 18:01

No, you shouldn't feel bad and yes you should enjoy good sex.

Tbh I think you should be feeling elated that first time sex was so good - just think how much better it is going to get : )

Suzi888 · 18/11/2020 18:09

As long as you are both happy and not hurting anyone, go for it. Smile

HollowTalk · 18/11/2020 18:16

No judgement about the shagging, but isn't there lockdown where you live?

TiggerDatter · 18/11/2020 18:18

Shag away, sound wonderful!

Cantdoitallperfectly · 18/11/2020 18:21

No judgement. Hope you had fun, don’t spoil it by beating yourself up!

Cw2307 · 18/11/2020 18:22

Nope we're in Scotland and in a tiered system.. And my area is in the least strictest part. Plus as I'm a single parent I'm allowed a bubble and so is he.. So pretty much the only. Person ill be seeing haha

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snowstercat · 18/11/2020 21:13

Wit wooooo Grin
Enjoy 😉

Wallywobbles · 18/11/2020 21:17

I'd got my now DH naked within 10 mins of meeting him. It'd been a long time. It was an epic night. It didn't cross my mind to feel bad about it. Sex is an expression of joy (and other things).

justilou1 · 18/11/2020 21:28

Consenting adults.... and tea is full of antioxidants, after all 😉

Badwill · 18/11/2020 21:43

Enjoy OP I'm jealous 😂 I also wished I'd done this a lot more in my twenties.

BTW out of my group of friends/family I don't know a single soul who was married at 27 so forget worrying about that! You've lots of time so just enjoy this stage because in a decade or two you'll be looking back on it wistfully no doubt Grin

blindinglyobviouslight · 20/11/2020 10:30

I'd got my now DH naked within 10 mins of meeting him

Where on earth did you meet him to be able to do that?!

Was he burglaring your flat?!

Brainwave89 · 20/11/2020 10:37

Hope it was great. No biggie, no need for any guilt whatsoever. Its 2020, if you are single and you meet someone you want to shag go for it. At 54 I regret more the things I did not do rather than the things I did.

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