Need to fix my marriage!

[ForestChris83]

Hey all, perhaps need some advice and a sounding board.
I need to fix my marriage!

I've been quite down in the dumps, mainly due to work stress and difficult relationship with my teenage step son which I've taken quite personally.
DW had been great, but I had a bit of a revelation that I've been putting work first and her and family second a few weeks ago. The stress had virtually killed my libido, she has accused me of being gay but now I realise this was her telling me I wasn't paying enough attention in the bedroom, i feel so stupid.
I admitted this and apologised, but this has sent her the opposite way it would seem! She said she finds it difficult and basically doesn't fancy me anymore. We've been married 4 years, together 10.

I'm trying my best to stay positive, look after myself a lot more and spend time at home, but she is avoiding me, and has stopped the pet names. Almost the same day I brought up how bad I had been.

I'm really not sure what to do next, I worry she's found someone else to connect to as well.

Any advice appreciated!

@ForestChris83

I didn't want to prejudice this thread by including this earlier but... 3 years ago a similar thing happened, and it transpired DW had had an affair. She can be quite compulsive and doesn't waste much time. Hence my anxiety.

If she’s done it before it’s a big risk she’ll do it again. But if you marriage is cycling like that, you probably to think hard about why and whether it’s the right relationship, if it can actually be fixed, etc. Doing the same thing and expecting different results...not generally a good idea.

I thought I had learnt from last time, obviously not well enough. It's easy to say, but much harder to let go of a relationship you value so much.