Sharing custody

[Qwincy]

I’m going through a divorce. My 11 year old twins currently spend 2 nights a week with their dad . They and I are happy with this. My ex would like an extra night but due to his working hours he can’t get them to school and will be reliant on bc and ASC clubs whereas I have my parents to help full time.
Hue have you split custody with your ex?

If he’s able to pay for childcare and the children are happy to see him for an extra night a week I don’t see the issue?

If your parents are having them after school anyway is there any reason they still couldn't and then your Ex collect them from there?

Would they get any time out of it or just going there to sleep?

I could ask my parents to bring them home and hand over - it’s a fuss as they’ll be picked up by him at 6 and they go to bed at 8:30. It’s a lot of toing and froing
I’m also thinking of sept when they go to high school and he doesn’t live on their bus route. No idea how he’s going to get them to school when he works from 7:30

Lots of children with two working parents are in ASC or similar until 6. Lots of children have after school clubs or extra curriculars that go on until that time too. If it’s logistically possible and the children are happy with it I still don’t see the issue.

Getting them to school when they’re in high school will be his issue to solve when the time comes.

Thanks divgirl, you are right, they will be happy to see their dad. I work in a school though and think 7am - 6pm is too long a day for them.

But if theyre happy with that, I will be too. And he can sort September out himself. My only worry is they are going to have to navigate two bus routes to high school (for when they’re with me and when they’re with him) and I don’t want him leaving them home alone every morning as he’s out of the door at 6:45. But it’s his problem .

@Qwincy

Thanks divgirl, you are right, they will be happy to see their dad. I work in a school though and think 7am - 6pm is too long a day for them.

But if theyre happy with that, I will be too. And he can sort September out himself. My only worry is they are going to have to navigate two bus routes to high school (for when they’re with me and when they’re with him) and I don’t want him leaving them home alone every morning as he’s out of the door at 6:45. But it’s his problem .

Yes its his problem and you have no say in it of he leaves them alone then its his house his rules

I have my 2 (10 & 13) every Monday to Thursday. Ex picks them up from school on Thursday and 1st week has them until Saturday 10am and the 2nd week until he drops them back to me at 7.30am on Monday.
It works well as the kids know where they'll be on weekdays. He chose to move 16 miles away from their base so he generally does the drop offs and pick ups.
Also means he only does 3/10 school runs.
HTH