What would you do

[Bekindx]

I am seeing this man a while now. I've known him through mutual friends for a few years now and I really fancied him. He contacted me and we hit it off and we have been spending time together and having a great time. After meeting a few times, he said he wanted to only date me and i said the same. I could tell he was getting feelings for me. He opened up about his past and trust issues. I opened up about mine. Now I am an honest person so I know he has nothing to worry about with me. Anyway yesterday I didn't hear much from him, until 10pm he rang and asked why I didn't ring or text. I did ring and text but he didn't reply. Then all these messages from him came in at once, so I assume his signal failed and that's why I got no messages. He now thinks I'm lying and he said I've ruined things, I've assured him that there's nothing fishy going on it was just a misunderstanding. He is having none of it and has been giving me the cold shoulder all day. I'm so confused. Any advice? I really like him.

Youve had a lucky escape. Block and move on.

He sounds a right drama llama, determined to wrong-foot you.

Don't justify yourself or buy into his narrative that you've done something wrong. He's the weirdo here' fgs don't go chasing him.

He messaged me this morning after giving me the silent treatment all yesterday, will I hear him out? Or ignore? Or slate him for his behaviour?

Anyone who gives you the silent treatment deserves to be fucked off . It’s designed solely to put and keep you, in your place . It ends up with you walking on eggshells , waiting until you do something that will result in you being ignored and made to feel like you are being ridiculous /selfish / unreasonable . It is abuse
As an adult , if you have an issue you sit and talk about it , tell the person how you are feeling , why you are concerned etc and you listen to what they say in return . They don’t call you up , demand you explain why you haven’t been in touch , insinuate you are lying and then give you the silent treatment . This is the behaviour of hormonal teenagers .
It’s not acceptable on any level . If you give in and accept this he will take it as a sign his shitty behaviour is ok with you and will be the way in which he will treat you in the future
He honestly sounds like a needy immature selfish arse of a man . Do yourself a favour and ignore this fool .

He’s playing controlling mind games OP. Get rid of him. This is a really bad sign.

It is obvious thst he had a phone signal problem but even if he didn’t realise that at first, he should have accepted the fact when you told him. Refusing to believe you is incredibly insulting.

I suspect you like the man he was pretending to be and are only now discovering the man he really is. Run!!

@Bekindx

He messaged me this morning after giving me the silent treatment all yesterday, will I hear him out? Or ignore? Or slate him for his behaviour?

If you forgive this there will be more of the same to come. Up to you whether you want that in your life or not.

Nah I'd be ending it tbh

Perhaps 'Having considered your behaviour last night, it appears you still have a lot of work to do on your trust issues before pursuing a relationship. All the best but, I think we should leave things there for now'. And then block (before he has a chance to manipulate/send you a text full of bile back).

What did he say? Did he apologise?

No apology, He said there's no point in sorting things out because he knows what he knows 🙄🙄 and now he's ringing and texting as if nothing happened and asked could he collect me later on.
He's definitely a few sandwiches short of a picnic

@Bekindx

He messaged me this morning after giving me the silent treatment all yesterday, will I hear him out? Or ignore? Or slate him for his behaviour?

Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse in a relationship with domestic violence. It is used as a tool to control you.

Dont entertain him at all.

Block him.

He knows what he knows? You can’t reason with a bullshit statement like that. Please fuck this one off.

Just tell him the truth.

No thanks. Your conduct over the texts has put me off. I’m not looking for someone suspicious and accusatory so we’re not compatible. I’m leaving it there. Good luck in the future. Bekindx

Basically he is testing yo to see if you will accept his bs. And training you to just sweep it under the carpet.

So sad when people turn out to be arsewipes when we thought they had potential :( But I guess better learning it now than down the line.

Now I kinda hope you text him 'LOL' and block the dick xD but either way, dont be drawn into his crazy.

He is already painting you as the untrustworthy, bad women who wants to hurt him. Probably paints his exs in the same light.

He's aleady trained you to grovel over a situation HE created. RUN, OP, or you won't know yourself in a few months time. I'm not exaggerating. PPs here recognise this type of man and they are toxic and dangerous to your MH.

The fact you are 10 years younger makes him feel he can train you, as women his own age would tell him to fuck off with his mind games.

I fear there is a lot of truth in that.

His attitude is a big Red flag Op, I would end it now before it gets worse. Soon everything you say will not be believed and you will feel like you're going mad.