New to mumsnet so apologies if I’m posting this on the wrong thread... couldn’t find one for friendship! Long story short, been friends with this person, let’s call her Cat, for nearly 20 years. We’ve always been close and at one point considered her my friend soul mate, as I felt we could talk about anything and she was always my go to. Of course we would have the odd tiff or disagreement but nothing major. As we’ve grown up we both matured in different ways. I had my first DC in May, she has none. 5 yrs ago I found I out I have PCOS alongside an underactive thyroid so was very worried about the possibility of conceiving and carrying a pregnancy to term, she was always very supportive of this. However, when I found out I was pregnant I was very shocked, completely unplanned, I told only her and my DP, and my mum. Her immediate reaction was “okay, well wait a day or 2, take another test and then decide” I replied that I had already decided to keep the baby and that I was so shocked (I was 22 at the time) she proceeded to be negative, saying I could have an abortion if I wanted to (quite pushy about this), saying if I got pregnant this easily I could again so no reason to progress if I’m “not ready”, asking if I could give this child the life it deserves, she then proceeded not to ask me how I was once or even mention it until I was about 14 weeks, she continually was negative about babies and children in general until I just snapped and sent her a long text basically saying I hope she is happy and I wish her nothing but the best for the future but that I was getting too upset by her always being negative about my baby and that I was hurt by how she reacted. We then didn’t speak. A few weeks before my due date she sent me a card in the post with a long message in, about how I’ll always be her sister, if I want to reconnect she’ll always be there etc etc. Being heavily pregnant during the peak of Covid and the first lockdown was enough on my mind so I didn’t respond and focused on preparing for my baby. When my son was born I saw on FB she had bought a house so I text her to say congrats, and she responded saying thank you. That was it. Then a few months later I sent her a message about reconnecting if she wanted to, and that if she would like to I would like her to be a presence in my sons life etc, trying to build bridges. She ignored this message and never sent any form of congratulations, text or otherwise after he was born, never liked any posts on social media or anything. Now - the reason for this ridiculously long post - I can see on social media that she’s gained a lot of weight, doesn’t seem to have the friendship groups she once had and generally seems depressed and I am a little bit concerned about her. Do I message again and check in and see if she’s okay, and see where it goes from there? Or do I decide the friendships over, which I initiated and move in with my life? We were once very close and I am feeling nostalgic but I was once incredibly hurt by the way she was acting! Sorry if this doesn’t make sense. Tia for advice and opinions.