Inspired by a few threads on here... it's raised the question in my mind, how did you know?
My red flags were... he used to refuse to eat any food I had made when he was going through his episodes, leaving his lunch behind that I made for work, refusing to eat the dinner I made, buying his own bread and milk when I had done a food shop, going through my phone and saying it was his right to, calling me a c every other sentence and saying he had every right to because he had no respect for me whatsoever, I was stonewalled for WEEKS, not 1 or 2, I mean 5 or 6 weeks! by the end of it when he agreed to move on - I just felt so broken, he used to gaslight me and say things to me that I knew weren't true and if I dared to question him he would make me write apology notes to him or say out loud that I was wrong because of XYZ, he told me I was fed in the head and needed to seek help and until I did he wouldn't ever change the way he was towards me, he said our daughter had mental health issues just like her mother, he cheated on me, lied, was NEVER EVER sorry - in the entirety of our relationship he never ONCE apologized to me, he had a way of turning around a situation where he was so clearly in the wrong and making it my fault.. this is not withstanding the physical and psychological abuse perpetrated towards me and our DD... by the time I left, I felt absolutely broken. But I am slowly getting my life back together and I am about to fight this b*stard with every fiber of my being in the Family Court.
So - what is it that made you realized you were dealing with a narcissist??