I'm struggling to get over what she has done, can anyone advise

[iJustWantToBeHappy]

It's been months now, the last betrayal happened in July, the most hurtful one in Feb.

The details aren't important, what is important is I was weak and let her constantly back into my life.

Her lies and deceit make me so angry at times... I hope one day Karma will ensure she understands the hurt she has caused.

But how do I get over this. I just don't want to feel this way any more. I want to be happy and move on but all I can think of her is how happy she is now she has got her man she wanted and doesn't care about the trail of hurt left behind her.

Block, delete (and by delete I mean everything. Photos, videos, all possible trace of her). Time is a healer. You will get through it.

I hope one day Karma will ensure she understands the hurt she has caused

You need to let this kind of thinking go, I had the misfortune (poor Judgement, boundaries and self esteem really) of being in a long term relationship with a man who turned out to be a serial cheater and the thought that one day he would wake up and realise the hurt he caused was what kept me locked into thinking about him all the time. I was hurting myself again and again. The sad truth is that the kind of people who repeatedly cheat, lie and gaslight a person they say they love, are just not wired like that emotionally. They just tend to not invest emotionally like the rest of us, their relationships are all surface, no depth. So hoping for karma, some realisation of the hurt they caused is not likely to happen.

Invest your energy in the kind of life you want for yourself, take time to heal and examine what led you to take her back after she showed you how little she cared and respected you. Invest in yourself now and you will be okay.

Who are you op in this, who is she? Who is her man?

OP do you have another thread going right now asking if you’re being obsessive?

About your friend spreading lies?

If that’s you then yes you really need to let it go, it’s clearly consuming you.

She doesn't matter. How happy she is, whether Karma bites her ass, is none of your business.

What makes you happy, or, at least, what takes your mind off her?

@AngelasLastEgg

OP do you have another thread going right now asking if you’re being obsessive?

About your friend spreading lies?

If that’s you then yes you really need to let it go, it’s clearly consuming you.

Yeah I’m wondering this...

Although I do think you need to get over it pretty fast, I do get where you're coming from..years ago I dated woman who didn't treat me great, and left me for another guy (I felt terrible, lost self esteem, etc). It took a while but eventually got back together (largely a lot of wooing on my part). Things were going great, well her her eyes, till I dumped her. She really tried to get back with me.

Rightly or wrongly, I still feel pretty good about it. 😊

Hopefully, Karma works on your favour.

I'd add that it rarely works out that way, and I was younger and immature then..

@AngelasLastEgg hi sorry I don't, no.

@Dontbeme thank you, I really appreciate that guidance

doubleaces89 Feeling good about dumping someone after they have reconsidered you as a life partner is not something to feel good about, you sound as vile as the women you were with

doubleacre, women are allowed to prefer other men to you, particularly in the dating stages.

‘Wooing’ someone back with the intention of dumping them as their punishment makes you far worse, you sound horrible. That’s not karma, that’s you planning something shitty for them.

@doubleaces89

That story doesn't make you sound anything other than unhinged.

@angelaslastegg it wasn't in dating stages, plus she cheated.

But alas, each to their own..difference makes the world an interesting place. I'm pretty glad with my actions and choices I made.

Most people don't have the intellect to see that things are rarely black and white.

Counselling may help.