Just need some support. Posted a while ago. Currently long story short. Partner declared overnight after going to a wedding on his own (argued to make sure I didnt go) that he was selling house,moving back down south as didnt want "this" anymore. We have two kids. I was devastated but he was complete detached and did not care how much I pleaded. Around this time he was vile with his words, telling me how horrible I was,no one likes me and taunted me in arguments saying he had someone else anyway. When life made it clear he couldnt just sell house etc he came full circle. Was nice and wanted it to work. Had just said about he had cheated to hurt me. Found out that he had been chatting,texting ( maybe more who knows) to his ex from years ago. Mother of his grown up kid. Hasnt moved on obviously. Was telling him they should get back together,reminiscing over old times. Fuming. Anyway didnt want to hurt kids, break family up etc so put my feelings to back and tried to make it work. Good days,bad days. Thought it was in past. Know if kids werent involved I would he gone. Anyway all ok till two nights ago I could see he had searched this ex profile a few times. Confronted him and be couldnt explain. Said he was just being nosey (WTF) and if it were me and an ex popped up I would do same. Isnt really bothered by my reaction and says didnt think it was a big deal. I'm angry and want to kill him . I'm putting my dignity and happiness on line for this? Tell me I am an idiot. I need to hear it. This isnt ok by anyone's standards surely. It's not a stranger. It's his ex who I am convinced he was leaving us for. You dont overnight decide your off unless someone else has turned you head?! I know I'm worth so much more.