DP and I have been together for 7 years and have 2 DC. I’m 5 years older than DP. I have an older DD from previous marriage.
My family have always been quite ‘woke’, grew up in a big city and I’d class myself as a feminist. DP’s family are very different. They’re quite traditional, come from a small village and don’t show interest in much outside the tabloids.
DP’s father was an emotionally abusive bully (Parents divorced when he was a child) and DP’s mother became a neglectful alcoholic. She is now very depressed, dependent on her D.C. and struggles to cope with life.
DP and I have always had a fairly tempestuous relationship. He can be quite domineering and dogmatic and his family especially his mum and sister have always enabled this IMO.
We fell out last year and in the heat of the moment is told him it’s no wonder my DD doesn’t like you. He told his sister and she said I’m very unreasonable and it sounds awful for him, DP and I want different things, my Comment made her sick, it was an awful thing to say and she’d have left.... We haven’t really spoken since.
I’ve always got on with his mum despite him finding her irritating. She visits And stays regularly which is nice. The last time DP and I got into a heated debate about feminism. He was talking over me and being obnoxious. She said nothing. It escalated, I got really mad and told him to leave. He told her loads of VERY one sided opinions about me, I obviously got angry and upset and she Then sprung into life and shouted at me!
So now I’ve fallen out with the two main members of his family. I don’t feel I’ve done anything wrong. I feel they mollycoddle him and never pull him up on his behaviour.