Hi All, not sure whether to post this here or whether to use step parenting but know this has more traffic regular poster name changed.
So basically my situation is - I’ve two children 7 and 8. Split from their dad three years ago and we’ve been fairly civil. They are cared forever 50:50. Started seeing my dp - 2 years ago and all is well. The children do know him as I’ve known him for years and they knew him when ex and I were together. He hasn’t ever stayed here while the children are here or anything like that.
We’re starting to think about the next stage. He has 4 children DS15, DD 10, DS 8 and DS 5 and he has them 70-80% of the time and is amicable with the ex.
We are thinking of slowly beginning to introduce the children to each other so our plan is post lockdown to begin by meeting at parks with the children. Introducing them and letting them play together for about 5 or 6 months and then seeing how that works. Then maybe opportunities to play in the houses and visit each other then maybe sleep overs and slowly eventually building up with the aim that in a year or so DP and I are looking to move in together.
Our plan is 100% to put the children first and if they struggle or anything then we will stop the process.
Just wondering really if we’re on the right sort of track and what others have done in similar scenarios. Willing to take all advice.