I'm 48, long term single, and my last and longest relationship (2.5 years) ended very badly, triggering a nervous breakdown.
The problem is this: I've been left with a chronic illness and have had a horrible few years as a result. But slowly I'm rebuilding my life, and I'm beginning to think again about dating. Not yet, but soonish. But I'm conflicted as I have zero faith in men! Not just because of my ex, but because of how other experiences of selfish, irresponsible, emotionally immature romantic partners.
I've been to counselling, etc so I'm very aware of why I choose these men 
. I've got a few friends who are divorced (twice in some cases, for very good reason). Some married mates hardly see their DHs as life is so hectic, or they whinge about them, whilst other DH/DPs seem unable to compromise leaving women miserable.
I find online dating frustrating, it's so much more tricky nowadays.
All combined, it just makes me feel more cynical than ever!
But despite this, I'm looking for inspiration/ a flicker of hope.
Has anyone here been able to overcome deep hurt and mistrust, and found a loving, healthy relationship in their late 40s? Do such relationships at my age exist?
Btw, I have no children. Thinking of fostering, which would make new relationships very difficult.