How did you know it was over?

[BrutusMcDogface]

Just that, really. Together 16 years; not married (he hasn’t proposed. I kind of did, and he said no! “We’ll get married one day, I promise” 🙄) We do have a mortgage and kids.

He’s always pressuring me for sex which puts me off massively. His sex drive is so much higher than mine. The sex is great, when I’m in the mood!

House is massively cluttered and in a state of disrepair and he’s so apathetic about it. I bought new toilet seats in the first lockdown, ffs, and they haven’t been put on yet. I tried but I wasn’t strong enough to undo the bloody screw things.

The thing is that lockdown and work issues have made him a bit depressed, so I don’t know if now is the right time to decide either way. Help me please?

Oh op, he has no good reason not to marry you. This must be very hard for you.

Looking in from the outside, I can see he’s not very interested

When we were planning to have a family and get married and he dropped into the conversation that he'd booked in to have a vasectomy.

I was like .. right!

The thing is, he really does love me. He always says it and shows it in many ways. I’m just not sure if it’s mutual anymore.

Bloody hell, Linda! That was an easy decision then, really. Glad he told you before the event! 🙄

The vasectomy thing after one child...apart from other things! Buy pliers and change the toilet seat yourself. You'll have to learn to do this yourself soon. Best get prepared.!
I'd sit down and make a list of jobs between you. Share them out and make sure he agrees to them....then see what happens!

When he fucked my best mate.

When I asked this question....

@Sideorderofchips- I’m sorry to hear that!

@duggeeismynewbestfriend - that’s what I’m thinking.

I’ve just read yet another thread on marriage/woman waiting for proposal etc. I wanted a baby so much that I didn’t wait for marriage first; I certainly should have done. However, maybe it wasn’t meant to be anyway.

We lived together but due to work rarely had time off together. One day we were both off and he got up to go for a walk on his own. I knew instinctively in that moment he preferred his own company to me. When he came back we talked and my gut instinct was right. We split that day.

Eighteen months later I met someone else that jumos through hoops to spend time with me.

We never know who or what is around the corner