Awkward end of date, what to do now...

[Daisyxo20]

So I braved online dating again after splitting up with my ex earlier this year. I met a guy online and he’s 10 years older than me. We spoke for about a month and since then have had 3 dates- first 2 dates he didn’t make any sort of move. We had our third date today and i got a bit fed up so decided to try and make the first move which was an utter fail and ended up in a weird peck/kiss on the cheek as he thought I was going for a hug and kind of turned his head?! cringe

Anyway, he text me when I got home saying he had a great time and can’t wait to see me again. He’s lovely but he seems painfully shy. He mentioned that he’s never had a long term relationship and his dating has only ever led to short term relationships and nothing longer than a few months (he’s late 30’s).

He seems nice and funny and the conversation flows but I don’t know how it’s going to work if he never makes some sort of move?! I mean today was just plain awkward . He seems keen over text, compliments me and tells me how attractive I am during dates so I do think he likes me but who knows

I don’t know whether to give another date a go or just cut my losses. He seems lovely but I don’t want to have to keep trying to make a move. (Or get myself in anymore awkward situations😂)

If he’s so shy, I think you’ll need to make the first move and perhaps say what you want rather than just going for it. If you tried and were turned down, didn’t find a spark in kissing or decided to stop seeing him because he didn’t make a move, you would be in the same position. Therefore you may as well be clear of your expectations. It sounds as if this is the only way of having any chance of a positive outcome.

@FlyNow

Dating is a bit awkward isn't it? Admittedly I haven't dated a lot, but I've never had a date where everything went magically and we fell in to each other's arms or whatever. It's always had a few awkward moments even if we did get on and it led to a relationship.

I agree with this. I think a lot of people have this vision of movie first dates where everything’s fun, romantic and magical. In reality it’s awkward and there will be nerves. You don’t really know someone after a couple of dates! Dh and I didn’t kiss until our 3rd date as we were both nervous. I think both of us knew, even early on, we really liked each other and we didn’t want to mess it up. It took us a while to get comfortable with each other. Just don’t put pressure on it and go with the flow.

@Aquamarine1029

He mentioned that he’s never had a long term relationship and his dating has only ever led to short term relationships and nothing longer than a few months (he’s late 30’s).

I'm not afraid to admit that this would give me pause. Late 30's and never a relationship that lasted beyond a few months? Failure to launch among other issues spring to mind.

I agree.

I wouldn't go on another date, I don't think.

I think what would give me pause would be the fact that, once it became clear you were going in for a kiss, you weren't able to laugh it off together and then try again. Hugging at the end of a meetup (and telling someone they look nice) is what you do with friends. Has he given any indication that he actually fancies you?