Sex after a long break

[DumbleDorkReturns]

I've posted before about how me and DH have had troubles in our relationship and how it's affected our sex life. But tonight looks like it could be the night where the drought breaks and I'm bricking it. Nervous as hell  don't know why as I've been sleeping with him for 16 bloody years but it's like I'm a virginal teenager all over again

Good sex is fully dependent on trust. So tell him you're nervous..you absolutely MUST communicate. Sex isn't a performance...it's a mutual experience where both parties must be able to let go and enjoy themselves and talk about it AS it's happening if need be.

It's taken DH and I 18 years to reach that but now we do, sex is great...it's not always mind blowing but we always have a laugh and always enjoy it physically.

Didn't happen last night as we ended up with kids in the bed but he's made a comment he's keen tonight. When I told him I'm nervous all he said was "it only hurts the first time" and that's made it a bit more easier and not as nervous now

You will be fine. It's like riding a bike! Don't build it up too much in your mind and think that both of you must have amazing orgasms and you need to hit every position in the kama sutra and spend precisely 7 minutes 28 seconds on oral.

Just concentrate on re-connecting with each other in a physical and emotional way, to get back into the habit of seeing each other as sexual partners as well as co-parents. Leave the adventurous stuff for future sessions! Make this one about intimacy and love.

Have fun!