32 and going back home - anyone else been here?

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Recently left a long term relationship, to which we share a DD. I've had enough of him and his ways but it was his house we always lived in, so it's me who had to move out. I'm back home at my mums to which I know it won't be forever but I feel so down about it and can't believe I'm here at 32!!!!! Anyone else been here in the past and have any positive stories of finding happiness with someone else, creating a new home and having more children? Do I have time at 32?!

Yes! I was 32 and I moved back in with my parents with my 2 DDs following my first marriage breaking down. I have since remarried and we have a lovely home together and share a 1 year old DD. (I’m now 37) It can happen. Have faith 😊

32, you are in your prime op.

Many grown up children are still home at that age these days.
There are not enough homes being built out there.

I'm sure your mum would rather you be happy than have her spare room back. I know I would.

Also, if you do go back to him, get married, why should you be left with nothing in future.

.... why do I feel like I'm running out of time to meet someone new, settle down and have more children?? Am I being ridiculous? x

I don't think you are being ridiculous. I'm 34 with a broken relationship and no job because of Covid and I have started to accept I may never have children or even a home that I own instead of rent. Many men are married at this age with young children. Because being a single mum is so hard, the ones who are kicked out are more likely to have done something really bad in the relationship, and I don't fancy giving those men a chance. There are lots of weirdos out there too.

I got divorced at 35 and thought I’d never have children ... but I moved on and had our DS aged 38 so there is hope! You have your whole life ahead of you at 32!

Just give yourself time. When I was 36 I stayed with my partner. Father to my first child. He had cheated. But I thought if I wanted a second child I had to stay with him. I wished I left then. I have a second child only for him to leave me 10 years later.

You know this is temporary. You have family who love and support you. Next year will be your year.

Ex and I split when I was 40 and he was 46, and I moved back to my parents with then 11yo DD and stayed for over 18 months!

It was a tough time, but I'm now 4.5 years single, have a lovely new home of my own which I share with DD and 2 beautiful cats. Still single by choice but have a great FWB and am a million times happier than I was in my marriage.

Ex (as per most men) found someone else before the ink walls dry on the application for divorce. That said their relationship seems much calmer than ours was and she's been pretty good with DD. They starting fostering last year (she doesn't have kids of her own) and are considering adoption if the right placement comes along.

So ultimately we've all moved on and are much happier for it in our own ways.

Thanks everyone for you words.... it's just hard sometimes when you can see clearly at the moment! X

You're so lucky to be able to do this
Mine and DH parents divorced when we were 20 and re married end neither of us has ever been welcome since other than 2 nights a year.

Count your blessings

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@silverfonze - yes, I do all appreciate and am grateful that despite what's going on in my life right now I am very lucky to have the option to start again and be able to go home for a little while. I know some people don't have this option and therefore don't have an opportunity to walk away from negative situations xx

Moving back home to parents as an adult brings it's own challenges.

I too was extremely fortunate to have family to fall back on...that doesn't mean it was a walk in the park.

32 is still so young! My ex left me when I was 37 after 10 years, I met someone else at 38 and we had a baby 10 days before I turned 40 :) You have plenty of time to meet someone else and have more kids :) just make sure you’re in the very best place with how you feel about yourself and your self esteem and self confidence high (as it should be) and I’m sure you’ll go on to meet someone else and move on and although it’ll be challenging living back at home for a bit, you’re lucky to have a supportive family to be able to do so

Thank you everyone! I really rely on mumsnet to give me all the advice I need - it helps me a lot so thank you everyone x