I'll try and be brief, married 7 years, known DH for decades before.
I'm a glass half full person. He is the opposite. If I'm ill I try and get on with stuff anyway (not in a martyr kind of way but as a distraction) and this usually makes me feel better.
DH and his parents love being ill. It's like the official family sport. They are all ill all the time and love talking about it, they may as well get their post redirected to the GP's surgery as they are there so often.
DH is ill almost daily and I should say he does have a temporary condition which is very very painful. But he also has lots of IMO minor complaints. I'm sick of hearing about stomach acid and headaches and trapped wind. Everyday he wakes up and groans and shuffles around like an old man.
We are late 30's/early 40's. We have a child and one on the way.
It's dragging me down being around him. Whilst I also feel very guilty and not being sympathetic. But I've run out of sympathy, I used to care and look after him. Now all I do is resent him.
Last week he stayed for three nights at his parents as they needed some low level caring. I felt a weight lifted off me even though I was parenting alone whilst due in a few weeks.
He had a total break from parenting yet shuffled back in the house like he's been put through the wringer.
I can't get past the resentment. I've got loads of aches and pains this pregnancy but what's the point of moaning about it to him as he can't fix them.
I've brought his misery and doom and gloom up on numerous occasions and we've talked about it but nothing changes. Any advice? Happy to be told I need to be nicer to him