Just found an email from a dating site in DH’s emails....

[MiddleAgedMisFit]

Had to check something he did through his email address last night, so I went into his email this morning (he knows I can get into them) and I have found an email from Badoo telling him there is a new woman registered (with photo) and he should start chatting to her before someone else does.

It was unread and sent at 4.15am this morning. He rarely checks his emails, I have to say.

It’s in his Inbox, not in his spam folder, and it’s in his language oddly enough (he’s not from the UK). For some reason I can’t open dating sites from my home WiFi during the day so can’t check if I can find him on it at the moment and I will have lost the plot by 9pm which is when my WiFi allows them to be accessed.

We’ve been here before where I found dating site emails a few years ago, which he apparently had no knowledge of, but they did seem to be spam.

What’s the possibility that he didn’t sign up to it himself? Do Badoo send spam emails which end up in Inboxes?

Any help very welcome!

They can send spam email. Could it just be that?

All kinds of stuff can end up in my inbox, including definite spam, and dating sites do send unsolicited emails. So not enough evidence to say as of yet whether he has been on the site. I've randomly had a single marketing email end up in my main inbox when all the others have gone to spam several times.

Oh dear! Just found another site he’s accessed through Google Play on the PC back in July. Well that can’t be a mistake can it!

Fucking prick.

I'm sorry OP

Its looking very suspicious.

Would be tempted to set up a profile and catch him out.

Can’t you use mobile data instead of WiFi

To make a profile you need to add a pic don’t you? How do you get round that? I’m not putting one of me on it!

I’ve just managed to set a profile up by using the Badoo app but it wants a picture.

The other site is AsianDate. His girlfriend before me was Thai.

Badoo is a real app.
Badoo will only have his email address if he has currently/previously had an account with them.
Quite possibly he has made an account and at first set up has not disabled all email notifications.
Potentially got the one email, then went to turn off the rest once spotted, so thats why he doesn't have a ton in his inbox (I've done the same thing with Tinder when I've made accounts on a couple of instances - get an email and then thing oh shit I don't want loads of these and so turn off all the email notifications)

Just find another picture online somewhere - it's not as though you'll keep the account for more than a few hours, is it?

Do you really need any more proof; you already have quite damning evidence here already. Badoo as well is a hook up site and whilst you do not have to spend money, it is encouraged to give you more followers.

Stop beingnaive. You know already what he is up too😣. Make some decisions op..

You can google “random pics of women” and choose from the images that come up.

I’m sorry OP, take your time. I do hope it is innocent.

Badoo is a dating site, not a hook-up site as far as I know. I met my partner on there and it was a site with dating preferences like any other site.

I can't imagine he would have a random message notification without signing up.

I'm really sorry, but he's early up to his old ways.

clearly*

@Coffeshopgirl

You can google “random pics of women” and choose from the images that come up.

I’m sorry OP, take your time. I do hope it is innocent.

Would you be ok with it if someone used a picture of you for this?

Op, dating sites do sometimes send spam and email addresses get sold so this isnt definitive proof but it doesn't look good with the other thing you found.

I don't think you should try and trick him with a fake profile, what the point. Tell him what you found and ask him to explain. Don't give him any warning. I suspect his attempts to cover it up will be all the evidence you need.

The email isn’t damning evidence as he may have previously registered.

The emails fall into spam or standard inbox based on ‘rules’ by the email provider, eg lots of spammy keywords or hundreds of ‘to’ addresses, or the source has been reported by other users for spam.

The Asian dating site is more damning if he has actually accessed it in his history

Making a fake profile is perhaps a step too far, save that for any future sleuthing, but if it gets that far to distrust him then your relationship is pretty much over anyway.
(Note to catch him out with this you may need to match his ‘looking for’ preferences)
If you do go ahead then be careful with fake photos, don’t use any random persons photo, and possibly use a royalty free stock photo.
Badoos ‘photo approval’ might pick them out though, it is possible to create a Badoo account with photo that doesn’t pass their test, but that may limit how much you can search until you have a complete account

KylieKoKo, I meant a photo from shutter stock. Sorry, I should have explained more clearly.

I don’t know, it sounds suspicious but I also constantly get spam from dating sites.
In fact I just checked after reading your OP and I’ve got a new one from a site called Local Seductress
I’d ask him about it OP, in a tongue in cheek way maybe and just gage his reaction

Well I’ve managed to get into the actual Badoo account by removing the Broadband shield (you learn something new everyday) and resetting the password to his email account. It was set up a few years ago so I don’t know why he’s got a message today. He had no photo but his date of birth was in there, a location and a few interests. It looks like his brother must have invited him because there’s a generic message from him (he’s younger and unmarried). Doesn’t look like he’s messaged anyone because you can’t without a photo but he must have put some info in.

I know he’ll deny doing it and say he must have clicked on it accidentally . Like he did the other ones.

I’ve just had a row with him on the phone, I did ask him in a jokey way but he went nuts and he’s denying all knowledge and of the other one he went into Google Play to visit.

I’m not going to waste my time trying to dig for more info because I did that last time and he’s either very clever (unlikely) or he’s been very unlucky to have been signed up to lots of different dating sites without his knowledge .

I actually don’t care either way at this point so that says a lot.

Funnily enough I don’t get spam from dating sites/offers of a hot man wanting to meet me at all. Obviously I’m not doing something right!

Also it’s not that he was a dating site before we met so he may have used his details before. They weren’t really a thing back then. We’ve been together since the mid 90’s and his current email was only sent up in around 2008 as we were living abroad until then. He’s definitely been looking around and that’s cheating to me, no matter how far it went.

I did ask him in a jokey way but he went nuts and he’s denying all knowledge

That would tell me everything I needed to know tbh...

Sack the scummy fucktard off OP.

I have found out that my bf has a Badoo profile (so do I but I have deleted app etc and it’s from well before we got together - so not active) I know he gets emails from badoo all of the time, now a friend of mine has noticed his profile on there, how do I find out when he was last active on there? Thanks