Guilt about new man in my life.

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Am separated 18 months. The marriage was long dead . Husband had an affair and left.
I met a man three months ago. We clicked and things have developed. I am not in UK so have met him and spent EOW with him and meet an evening per week. I see this going somewhere.
My issue is that I feel guilty. My children are with me constantly except for EOW and a couple of hours per week in the evenings.
Prior to meeting this man, I was always around if and when my teenage son stayed home and didn't go with her Dad. He stayed in his room, listened to music, chatted with friends etc
And didn't really engage with me but at least I was always there .
He isn't pushed on spending weekends with his Dad but does.I think he would prefer to be at home with me on the weekend The children are with their Dad and sometimes I feel guilty that I cannot give him that option as he is not yet mature enough to stay home on his own imo.
This wasn't an issue before I met this man as I was still reluctant to do anything or meet any friends etc for the 15 months after my Marriage broke down so he stayed home at weekends mostly . I did explain to him that once Wewere settled and healed , that I would be going away for those weekends or having friends to mine. Now I feel like I am
Being neglectful but am also torn about enjoying the company of someone special with whom there may be a future.Thoughts appreciated please??

To add, there is no way I would consider introducing children to him or even letting them Know he exists for a year at least , if we are still together .

Anyone??? Thanks

Why won't you tell your teenagers you have a boyfriend for a year? That's a bit weird and likely to lead to them thinking you're hiding something or not being honest with them.
It's fine to have a life especially when your kids are teens. Just tell them you're dating someone and won't be at home on those weekends. They don't have to meet him for a while but there is no reason to hide it.

My other children are younger . I wanted to wait so they will be ok with it . They are damaged by their dads sudden departure but they don't know why he left as we were advised to tell them we fell out fo love .