Low libido

[Earth1234]

Hi all. Dont know what to expect when i write this, just looking for advice or maybe people who can relate.

So for a while ive felt like i dont want sex anymore. I didnt say anything to bf for a few reasons. 1) I dont want to hurt his feelings. 2) Its not always, but he will get moody or give me silent treatment if i say no (so recently ive been making excuses tbh to avoid the moodiness). 3) He has said on multiple occasions that we are not close anymore he feels like im cheating on him. Can i add that we do spend time together we cuddle and kiss. But i suppose i feel like shit when he says this because we dont have to have sex to be close.
We have sex 2 or 3 times a week and i feel awful saying this but i just dont want it. Now hes noticed the lack of again, i finally decided to tell him. He said that im pretty much a liar then when we have sex because u didnt want it but i felt on edge to tell him the reasons stated above. I explained that im sorry that i didnt know how to approach the topic. So now ive been hit with silent treatment again and thinking what was the point opening my mouth.
Thank you for letting me vent

Op this is exactly like me. I had a high sex drive. Way to high I fact . I used to do my partners head in . But these last 4 months it's been the last thing I want . He's even complaining saying I never want it no more , I am pretty worried as I am only 33 x

@whataday12 maybe contraception? Thats what i have put it down to. And i just think to myself if i dont want sex i shouldnt have to and same goes for you too. I do wonder if its a phase thatll be over soon but they seem to be making us feel like crap

You don't have a low libido. You have a sexually unattractive bf!

I'm not surprised you don't want sex with a moody, sulky, manipulative manchild who accuses you of cheat to get you to have sex with him.

Come off the contraception, stay off for a few months see if it helps (make him use condoms obvs). Talk to him about it, explain how you don't understand what's happening but you want to get to the bottom of it as it's making you miserable too. How long have you been together?
Men are touchy when it comes to sex because they associate it with love and if you're not supplying, they presume you don't love them anymore. Is it a libido problem in general ie you don't get turned on at all ever anymore or is it just the idea of sex with him in particular?

@Kittyninja I have tried to explain but its like he shuts me off, that 'i have lied' and 'well sex is off the cards?'. Then back to ignoring me. I feel stupid now ive said it but i really do feel/want nothing sexually. And i think the libido problem is a bit of both if im honest

He's accusing you of cheating to make you feel bad so that you have sex with him. If he really thought you were cheating he wouldn't be pestering you would he?

He sounds like an immature brat, which is never sexy!

If you love him and want to make it work then counselling together where you can talk out both your feelings on neutral ground is an option. But if he isn't doing it for you anymore and the idea of a counsellor telling you to try sensual 'work' to get it going again repulses you, then maybe consider you aren't compatible anymore.
Yes I agree with previous poster that he's being bratty but if your partner stops wanting to be intimate with you, that can really wreck the self esteem and you act out in all sorts of ways.
I don't know how long you've been together but there's a lot of literature on the 'lust sex' dying which then moves into a different phase which takes a bit more work... Whether he's worth the effort is up to you.