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What is this text meant to mean??

14 replies

gigglewiggle · 17/10/2007 10:59

Hi All,

Ive been seeing a new guy for a few weeks, nothing serious or major but we seem to get on and enjoy each others company.
He rings me everyday and texts all the time. On sunday i was really tired and went to bed early (7.30), when i woke in the morning i had 4 messages and a missed call from him.
Since then he has been offish with me, i was meant to meet him at 10pm last night and was sitting waiting when i got a text at 10.06pm saying "cant meet tonight, will call tomorrow" to which i replied "u joking?" He then replied "No, will discuss tomorrow"

Now my opinion of that is there is no apology for leaving me sitting in a pub on my own after having arranged childcare etc..which he knows i struggle with. And the "Discuss" rather than "explain" part means he is going to call it off?

I feel so childish but i hate games like this....What do you think?

OP posts:
CappuScreamO · 17/10/2007 11:00

god I hate texts

everyone just stop it

WideWebWitch · 17/10/2007 11:01

He's a tosser is what I think. You don't leave someone waiting in a pub and you;re entitled to not answer your phone, none of his business where you were or what you were doing on Sunday. Alarm bells would be ringing for me

BrownSuga · 17/10/2007 11:03

call him and ask

PrincessAfterLife · 17/10/2007 11:03

Don't read too much in to it until you know what is wrong. Anything could have happened that he can't tell you about yet. Patience.

muppetgirl · 17/10/2007 11:04

Don't chase him...........

If you do now, you'll be doing it for years!!

dirtmonkey · 17/10/2007 11:05

I would leave him to play silly sulky "power" games with other people and meet a man who will behave like an adult and treat you with respect. If he feels the need to make you feel bad/guilty/worried & stand you up just because you had an early night & weren't available for him for ONE NIGHT he needs to grow up. Sorry to be harsh but I got a horrible feeling when I read your op - so like my exh.

harleyweendemon · 17/10/2007 11:07

wait and see what he has to say for himself
sometimes things come up at the last minute
it was a bit rude of him just to text though

Carmenere · 17/10/2007 11:10

Well I would give him the benefit of the doubt ONCE. But if he is prostrate with apologies for standing you up I would tell him to take a hike.
Although tbh I think that if there was a proper excuse he would have told you in a phone call, I suspect he is either a) about to dump you or b)playing mind games.
Sorry, but you are better off without.

warthog · 17/10/2007 12:18

i'd wait for his call. don't phone or text him. he'd better apologise for standing you up. just because you were unavailable one evening doesn't excuse this behaviour. BUT don't be to quick to jump to conclusions. there may be a reasonable excuse for all this.

binkleandflip · 17/10/2007 12:21

oh dear, looks like you both think the other is playing games. When you didnt respond to his texts and calls on sunday (and didnt let him know you were going to bed early with a goodnight text) then he took the hump and decided 'two can play at that game' by the sound of it

Turn off the phones and talk to each other!

Original poster
gigglewiggle · 17/10/2007 14:26

Well instead of the promised phone call, he sent me a message earlier saying "how are you"

I replied "confused"

To which he replied..

Ended up in Oxford last night til 11pm due to work, sorry to mess you around, will call you later.

To which i replied "Its Ok xxxx, no need, maybe will see you around, have a nice day. (i didnt want to seem like i was bothered)

He then phoned and i didnt answer so he left a voicemail saying "what can i say, it was work blah blah blah..dont want to lose you blah blah blah!!!

Thing is he is self employed and everytime he is out with work he rings because he is on the road. So i know its a lie and cant bring myself to be bothered arguing over it when ive only been seeing him a few weeks.

I just hate the way men play games all the time.

OP posts:
pirategirl · 17/10/2007 14:35

hmm

i mainly hate men, dont trust them

But maybe, he knew he was in the wrong last night and texted u becuase he was feeling cowardly, instead of phoning? Thats not right of course.

Do you nkow for cetian he wasn't out with work, is he on call out like a plumber or something. sometimes they get into right pigs of jobs?

Sounds like he KNOWS he has peed u off tho. Good answer the not being bothered bit. Lets see if he can redeem himslef.

Did u trust him b4, and did he always call before??

binkleandflip · 17/10/2007 14:38

giggle, hate to point it out to you but the 'not seeming like you were bothered' bit is YOU playing games too - so its not just blokes that do it - most of the time its people who dont want to get hurt (or show that they are fallible). Honesty is the only way - for both of you. If you think he's lied to you and you're bothered then say so.

If you think he's not worth seeing then block his number.

Dont play games.

ginnedupumpkin · 17/10/2007 21:12

I agree with binkle.
Why don't you see him one more time and be upfront about how you feel. Tell him how pissed off you were at being stood up and that you won't put up with being treated like that.
How he reacts will help you decide if you want to see him again, or if he's a loser.
You should start how you mean to go on imo. Its a new relationship so your both feeling insecure, but if you lay your cards on the table so to speak, you might find he does the same and the games can stop.

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