From Butterflys to Omg, how ?

[Hawkins001]

Im fairly new as a commentator, however been a long time fan of mumsnet, eg remembering names such as Anyf***, Gamerchic, ect,
not sure exactly how to phrase this so apologies in advance,

With regards to relationships, is how or in general why do they seem to begin with the butterfly's for each other, so to speak, then after x amount of time some relationships are falling apart at the seams, from a psychological point of view , who, what, why ect ? hopefully this will be an intriguing psychological perspective for a lot of readers.

You don't have to remember Anyfucker, she's not gone anywhere.

What's your psychological perspective?

Neither has gamerchick.

Because new things are exciting for humans. Then you get used to the new thing and its not exciting anymore. You either still get on and stay together or you realise it wasn't meant to be. A very Simplistic look at it!

good good, although ive not seen them around latley, and was not sure if they had used different names,

As for my personal view, i wonder if it starts as lust, then after a while with the stresses of everyday temptations or just general life duties, ect, it can then start the process of deconstructing the relationship.

^^ Well I'd say you've just about covered it 🤷‍♀️

Sometimes it's that people only realise certain aspects of other people when they've known them a while (especially if it's socially unacceptable behaviour that they normally strive to keep hidden)

Other times it's that the first part is the exciting part. Normality is by definition Not The Exciting Bit. Unfortunately too many of us have got used to the whole idea of romance being exciting and think that if I'm not feeling the same as I did at first it's because there's something wrong with my relationship and I should go off with this other person who is exciting (because I've just met them).

Why are you giving normal life random names, navel gazing doesn't achieve anything.

Because you gotta kiss a few frogs....

You get to know each other better, the hormones wear off and you realise you're not that compatible after all

Novelty factor;

People tend to put on their best front in the early days of a relationship but only keep it up for so long;

We can often be tempted to see what we want to see, not what is really in front of us.

BIOLOGY! Plain and simple! It takes approximately 2 years for all those feel good chemicals in your brain to go back to normal levels. That’s when you really start to look at your partner with a more practical and realistic view. Either you realise they’re not as great as you thought they were in those first months, or you still love what you have!

Kids. Plus there’s evolutionary biology. It’s called Mate Poaching. Read up on it. It’s the reason why blokes in their mid life dump their wonderful wives after 20 years and start humping somebody 20 years younger.