She lives with another man, but she wants a family with me in future

[Peter266]

She left me 3 weeks ago, moved away, now she lives with someone else. She said we had no future and she just didn't want to be with me. The next day she said, that it will be only for a while and then I could marry her. Explain me this behavior to me, because it's too much.

• she wants to be with someone else until she finishes school, she said, that he know better motivate her to learn and our housing was small and it was impossible to learn here
• She said that I can have our photos on facebook and instagram where we are together, they are nice and he doesn't mind.
• she comes to me about once a week, we had sex once and had fun with other sex games,
• one week ago she wanted to move back only as a friend, I said no because she is with another man, she begged strongly, I let her come, she came in the morning but she moved away the rest of things, and said that she changed her mind that the apartment is small and she can't learn here ,
• we was on a trip in mountains this weekend, we hold hands, we are together all day, we talk about our sex, but she doesn't want to kiss and she calls me by name, when we were together in relationship she always called me "love".
• During this weekend she said that in half a year, when she finishes school, she wants a family with me, children and home ... Until now, she did not want children with me because I have bad genes, Now I am beautiful and children will be too. hmmm....
• she turned her mind a few times, once she wanted to come back, once not, once that she would never return and we have no future, once depressed, once she loves me and she will return within a few days and never leave again, then no more.

- Once this and then somethong alse, and over and over again

• I have to find a bigger flat and then she will come back, she talked all day about how we will have a family, I just have to hold on until she finishes school

What is it about?
Is possible that she will come back and it will be true or it is only a game?

she doesn't care about me. She care only about herself.
She gave me what I had needed. So I loved her so much. I would have done everything for her. I lost my freedom. I could't have friends. She was jalous of my friends, even men. I couldn't go to trip with my old friends.
On the other hand she could do anything with anybody.
It is not possible build future (house, child, trust) with somebody like her. I wanted, so much, but maybe her new partner saved me. Who knows. But now I am scared, thad her new relationship will faild, and she will come back.
I am still NOT able to burn bridges with her. Cut her off completly.
She still has keys from my flat, some stuff here, I have her photo still in my wallet, photos on social media, she still can come when she want here, I don't have enough strenght to end it completly 😕. It is still fresh.

Cut ties with her. She’s a user.

Okay, it's time to put your big boy pants on and most importantly, get some self respect! Be logical about this and stop allowing your penis to make the decisions. Why do you love her? Make a list of her pros and cons. Here, I'll even do it for you based on your two threads so far.

Pro's:
She has a great body that you like having sex with.

Con's:
She treats you like crap.
Says she wants to be with you but only if you buy her a flat in another country (Slovakia / Poland?).
She screams at you.
She is verbally and physically violent towards you.
Everything that goes wrong is your fault.
She cheats on you on a regular basis.
She won't let you have any friends.
She treats you like a doormat.

Take her photo out of your wallet RIGHT NOW and chop it up into tiny bits. Block her on social media. Bag up her stuff in a black bag and tell her to come and collect it at a specific time. Put it outside your door just before she is due. Then either go out or go into the furthest room from your door, put on headphones and play music / watch a movie. Change your locks first.

Stop mooning over this nasty woman like a lovesick teenager and find someone who deserves you. You are clearly a kind and patient man under that quivering jelly exterior. There is a woman out there with a cracking body who will appreciate that kindness and show you the same in return. Now, go and get that grip, scrub "mug" from your forehead and free yourself!

I removed her photo from my wallet. Day by day she is more and more away from my heart. I feel lonely sometimes, but it is ok. She has still furniture in my flat. Most of furniture, refrigerator, washing machine belong to her. It is from her own flat. I have almost empty flat without her stuff. So I do not know what to do. Her flat is 70 km away. She said that I can have and use that stuff in my flat. But I can't completly cutt her off my live, with that stuff in my flat. But I am scared what if she will want to come back, what if her new man kick her from his flat, who knows. I love my freedom I got without her.
I am scared too, if I will cut her off from my live immediately, she will want to come back, or she will try some manipulation.

Hi Op
Read the short story, The Nightingale and the Rose by Oscar Wilde.

A sad story that might make you realise the futility of your situation