Hi all,
I posted a few months back about my narcissistic ex and shared some of the messages he would send. It was agreed that he was narcissistic and was using a number of other techniques and strategies to manipulate the relationship.
I’m now considering what a new relationship could look like but I’m struggling to let go. I’ve talked to some lovely men, been on a few dates and felt that spark and connection but I still think about him.
My ex would argue with me all the time, say things that were untrue, and get us both in a tangled mess.
But he was also the funniest person I’ve ever known, made me feel the most loved and desired I’ve ever felt (when it was going well) and welcomed me into his life with open arms. I had a key to his place (our place he would call it) and I’d met all of his family.
Could he have been acting out through insecurity? Was it my fault? A tough situation as I’d come out of a marriage (completely amicably) and he was insecure about that?
Or do I just need sense talking into me? I’ve read through my past threads which helped but I’m still not sure if it could be different second time around.
If it is that you should never get past a narcissist then how do you get over them when they’re so good at giving you what you need a lot of the time?
You were all so wonderful first time around, I didn’t know where else to turn.