30 days no contact, anyone want to join?

[RamonaLark]

Blocked my on and off again person. I kept ending it and then going back, this year has been tough and we have so much fun but then I feel awful afterwards! He never wants it to end so it is difficult to walk away and stay away.

I blocked everywhere last night. He has been calling from withheld but I haven’t picked up.

Aiming for 30 days as a start. Through lockdown (he was my bubble) which is an added challenge.

I’d like to be accountable to someone. Anyone with me?

I will! I'm only a week NC with my ex but it is already feeling so much easier. I don't even want to hear from him anymore. I still get the urge to text him to tell him how much he has destroyed me but there is NO WAY that I will actually do that.

Stay strong, we can do it!

I’m so grateful to hear from you!

One day down, 29 to go.

Well done for already being at a week. I’m pleased to hear you already feel better.

It’s been 2 months since I ended things with my narcisstic ex. I started off by blocking him for the first 2 weeks but that resulted in him badmouthing me to all my friends and mutual aquaintances to try and get a rise out of me. I unblocked him to prevent this and all I get is declarations of love or aggressive messages saying I’ve made a fool out of him by dumping him (!) Ive not replied to any of them but I need the strength to block him again and face the wrath when he starts using other people to get to me again :-(

That’s so hard. Hopefully you will find the strength to block and not allow the badmouthing to upset you. The most important people will either already know, or eventually see, the truth.

You have to be ready to not let any of it get to you, though.

Well done for not replying. It’s so difficult when they are inflammatory messages.

Im ready to block again and stick to it this time. First day for me 🙂

Yes...day 1 tomorrow. I have a thread on here also.

Well today...it ended terribly but it's been on and off for a year. Always me going back and apologising...he's never wrong.

I feel like shit....😪

@notsurewhattodo22 Do you have kids with him? If not, block him on everything. Sort out any details like practical stuff if there's anything that genuinely needs doing, then block him. Think of it as just a press of a button, a physical action that takes a few moments.

No kids no. He is blocked...it just hurts and the thought if not speaking to him again hurts so much. It doesn't bother him.

Keep thinking of all that's bad about him and the relationship- the pain having anything to do with him causes you. xx

I stupidly am always the one apologising and getting nowhere...just abuse and dismissed.

My friends can't believe I kept on in there. I feel ridiculous for apologising so much when he's in the wrong.

Thanks for starting this thread. So hard x

No problem — I’m pleased we can all help each other . Sorry to hear you are struggling, this too shall pass.

I’m counting the mornings as my tick over time so I’ve nearly done two days. He’s called me a few times from withheld tonight and I haven’t been tempted to answer.

I have blocked him everywhere I can but it’s impossible to fully avoid being contactable.

Have you thought of a reward you earn if you manage the 30 days? It's a great motivator. You can choose a treat for yourself - a day out somewhere or clothes shopping (online if not possible in shops where you are because of Corona).

@Justwanttobehappy1234

Im ready to block again and stick to it this time. First day for me 🙂

Well done! I hope day 1 was a relief.

Two days complete for me 🎉

Well done! Day 1 here and it was hard...worried I will cave later but I would get ignored anyway so no point!

@notsurewhattodo22

Well done! Day 1 here and it was hard...worried I will cave later but I would get ignored anyway so no point!

How did you do yesterday evening?

Day 3 done and he didn’t call me once. I’m feeling better and like a weight is lifting.

It’s been 3 days and the sheer relief not to jump whenever my phone pings a text message tone is immense. Although I’ve blocked him everywhere I can to stop this happening so he’s probably tried.

The last time I blocked him he used mutual friends and colleagues to pass on messages verbally, so I’m trying to be prepared for that. Am constantly looking over my shoulder when our and about in case he’s following me 😞 can’t wait for this to go away

Well, I’ve had a bizarre couple of days!

He was going to come to my house whether I liked it or not on Saturday and sit outside in his car in the hope I would go out and speak to him (a 5 hour round trip).

He told me this on Friday night (email) when I was tipsy and I ended up speaking to him. I was worried because it felt intimidating, and really I’d be entitled to call the police, but it would seriously impact his career. I know I shouldn’t care if his behaviour is unacceptable but I do.

I felt some responsibility because I have really affected him by blocking him and he hasn’t been dire to me. He’s just not right for me, not over his ex, a little bit of a prick, and I always end up going back, so I wanted to break the cycle.

Anyway, he listened and didn’t come, thank goodness, and I am back to not replying. I am starting to miss him though. Keep reading back my list as to why I need to do this.