Online Dating in your 50's

[HUGS65]

After 16 yrs I find myself single again! I just wondered if anyone had found true love on dating sites especially as you get older

I tried them for literally 7 days in the post-break up fug of thinking this is weird, I don't want to be alone forever. But they made me dislike people so much I've never tried since, and never will.

Takes a while to get used to, but now I absolutely love being on my own and feel really stupid for having wasted years on awful relationships.

There's another recent thread on here full of brave souls who do OLD in later life but imho it's by and large a depressing read.

Just enjoy the freedom!!

@HUGS65 come and join us on our thread - it has the same title as this one!

I found love at 51. Went on a (terrible) date with a man I met via a mutual FB hobby group, to a concert. I went outside for some fresh air and locked eyes with a lovely guy, who's been my DP for 6 years now. He is my true love. But anyway Mr Terrible would've been my 1st & last foray into 'online' dating anyway, too many lying failed life men. The guy I went on a date with was nothing at all as he'd said he was.

At 50 is there the time and inclination to sift for months or years, with men who see online dating as easy sex with lots of choice? The 'self-employed & loving it! (ie broke) men are legion on there. I took a look in the past and thought nope.

The women on the OLD thread on here, I admire them for trying. But reading how so many are left dangling, ghosted, lied to etc is sad.

I'm quite a social person and go to (age appropriate) social/dance events anyway so it's more likely I would've eventually met someone that way I suppose. I think you have to get up and out if you want someone or something.

I know some say they don't have time to do that but I think if you've the time to go out on dates then you've the time to go out do what you enjoy then perhaps meet someone that way. Even if doing online dating alongside it's another option.

I met my current partner on a dating app(I'm 51). It was my 2nd attempt of online dating. The first attempt was pretty dire, the 2nd obviously was much more successful. I think the main difference was how I felt about myself. I didn't take it too seriously & was quite picky. I had a couple of dates with ok men. They were nice, just not for me. I wasn't sure if my partner was my type, but thought I'd give it a go, his personality won me over & tbh was the first man who wasn't all about him, but genuinely interested in me.
Good luck & keep us posted.

I really enjoyed my time on OLD in my early 50s. However, I was in a good mind set. Even when they were dreadful dates I couldn't wait to tell my girlfriends over dinner. I met some truly lovely guys, some odd ones and some that ghosted me. Its part of the deal. I actually sometimes miss those heady days of 2 or 3 dates a week especially through lockdown. However, my OH is someone I met IRL in between OLD dates. I still keep in touch with 2 of my OLD dates that didn't actually go anywhere but we got on well and had similar interests and they are still interesting to talk to. They are good friends now and both have moved on to other relationships. So, the thing to OLD is your mindset plus luck!