Close to Perfect

[Trumpyouredone]

Those of who are or were dating in your 40s/50s when there aren't many decent men around, how fussy were you when you settled down?

I've been OLD for a while following my divorce.
There have no been any crackers, or even anyone who I wanted a short term relationship with.
Ideally I'm looking for the live of my life, but do I need to be realistic unless I want to live alone for the next 40 odd years?
I'm very happy being single, but I know I could be much happier with a lovely guy in my life.

Do you have to drop your standards to find someone if you don't want to be alone forever? I feel it's complete fluke if you find someone who is 'perfect' for you and actually most relationships starting at this age are compromises?

Eg would you date a guy who was great in every way, but not very good looking etc?

2 friends of mine found their husbands OLD in their early 50s few years back. Both of them very happy and one said her second husband is even better than her 'good' first husband, who died 5y beforehand.

IMO sexual attraction is essential.

I think you are confusing different things...

Nobody is 'perfect' no matter how young or old they are and thankfully we all find different types of men appealing.

But at the same time there is no reason to force yourself to be with someone that you don't find attractive and enjoy being around because you are scared of being alone...that is just a recipe for unhappiness.

I personally would rather be alone than be in a boring, tepid relationship with someone I find only vaguely interesting.