Relationship problems

[Johanna33]

Ok...my bf and I have been together for 7yrs have 2 beautiful children. However something is missing I honestly don't know what I feel anymore!!!
We seem to just get on with life! He does shift work and I atm am a full time mum.
Our children are 7 and 2, our 2 yr old sleeps in Cot in our bedroom and 7yr old has a room of their own but rearly sleeps in it!!!!!!! as my bf sleeps there, he goes to bed early on work nights 5/6pm. I am then left taking our 2 yr old to bed and later go to bed with my 7yr old. I wake Every day in my bed with my children not my bf. I love my children wholeheartedly they are my world.
But I don't know what to do and I feel something like I don't care anymore I don't want sex, I don't feel sexy, but I'm quite happy with my children so I AM satisfied. The very rare occasion we sleep in the same bed it's nothing special we never wake up to morning snuggle and i'm feeling sad about it but my heart doesn't ache anymore I'm just disappointed.

You need to take control of the children's sleeping habits. If you only have one bedroom spare, then it's time to move the 2 year old in there with the 7 year old.

Why haven't you done this? And made sure of a proper bedtime for each of them?

I agree with fortunes fave. Also once you've got the kids in a bed, work on your relationship, have some counselling, sounds like it's still salvageable.

Thanks you for your advice 😘. I had previously tried to move the cot into my child's room but it didn't work, my youngest wouldn't settle. I usually put my younger one down at 7 and my 7 yr old at 8/8.30 I am going to try it again tonight they can both go to bed at same time bath, book bed.
I had thought about counseling and I think this would really help so your words have reassured me Thank you both xx I'll keep you posted xx

Firstly you have to get the DCs in same room and settled. Easier said than done I know but nothing will change until you do this. Secondly you need some time to work on relationship. Also I would try geting a job asap as you’ve very vulnerable with no job and not being married.