Is it over

[Strawb1980]

H left me in June after big argument. Minimal contact him only texting about dc. Ignores me in street drives past me refuses to speak to me. His dad died just over a yr ago and he changed into a different man. He's told me he needs more time and he's not right in the head. I'm holding onto the fact that he might realise what he's lost and talk to me and try to fix our marriage. My heart and head are telling me 2 different things. Am I wasting my time?

Your husband is in the grips of grief. It can change people. If this argument in June was just a big blow out that was preceded by a huge amount of problems on top of his fathers death it might have been the last straw for him. If he doesn't want to talk there is little you can do. I would suggest you move on with your life and re build. If he changes his mind later on then thats a conversation you need to have if that happens. Listen to what he has told you "he's not right in the head" and "needs more time". Give him that but don't suspend you life either....move forward.