Feel so sad and lost and lonely

[youngsadandblue]

I don't even know where to start. I'm sitting here alone listening to the fireworks outside and it feels as though I'm the only person in the world, I am so alone. I broke up from my long term partner a few months ago, we went no contact and I was starting to feel better but recently met up a few times as friends as he said he missed me and also felt lonely. But suddenly he has stopped replying to my texts so I take it he has changed his mind, and it has brought up all the feelings of heartbreak again, like losing him again. I don't really have any friends and not close to my family, haven't seen colleagues in months. I have signed up to various dating apps but all the men are just awful, within a few messages they are making sexual remarks and innuendos. I just feel really sad and as though I'll never be loved again in the same way that he loved me, I felt totally safe with him and now I have nothing, I have no future at all and just keep thinking about ending things. Just the thought of people welcoming in 2021 and looking ahead to hopefully a brighter year brings me to tears because I don't feel I have anything to be hopeful for. Not sure what I want anybody to really say, just wanted to reach out because I don't want to be here anymore

Do you do any sports or hobbies (when not in lockdown) where you can meet men naturally ?

Any family or friends that you can talk to ?

I completely empathise as similar situation here. Saturday evening, sat alone, feeling so alone. Usually I can be quite upbeat and just think this isn't forever but tonight I feel like you. Hope things improve OP.

You are not alone and you have worth!
Time to shift the focus OP. I know how hard this is, honestly!
Get yourself a nice hot bubble bath and off to bed. Tomorrow is a new day. This is time for YOU!
What do you want to achieve?
What have you always wanted to do?
Use this lockdown to make plans. Learn to bake/sew. Read books. Take long walks and really take in the views. I know it’s hard, but you will get there. One day someone who come along who truly deserves you. But for now, love yourself and make sure you’re the very best version of yourself. You will be happy. You are brilliant and there is only 1 you!

116 123 is the number for the Samaritans if anyone ever needs it.

You sound utterly fed up, you poor thing. It sounds like you were hoping your ex would rekindle the relationship and now he's no longer interested, it feels like the last straw. Forget about the fireworks going off outside, and the thoughts of people gathering together and having fun - for the most part, they won't be, we're in lockdown and there's not a lot going on.

Do something nice for yourself tonight - a hot bath, something tasty to eat and delicious to drink, download a good book to lose yourself in, or watch a film. Plan to get out of the house tomorrow, even if it's just for a half hour walk. Life can and will get better for you.

Hi OP. I have been where you are, it is horrific and lonely and isolating and bleak. Please be kind to yourself. Put Netflix on and cuddle up under a blanket with a tea, read a book, remember you are worthy and things in life do change, maybe not in the ways we plan or would like exactly, but hold on, take things one step at a time. I could have written your post at one time, you are not alone. I expect there are many many people feeling exactly as you do, not that it makes it easier but hopefully makes you recognise that your feelings are normal.PM if you’d like x

"Not sure what I want anybody to really say, just wanted to reach out because I don't want to be here anymore"

• I am where you are, OP. You are not alone.

I don't know if there is that in your local area but would you reach out to a befriending scheme? Or even better, a Facebook group or next door page for your neighbourhood? If so, would you post something asking who fancies a coffee in a local park? I've taken up that offer from a lady in my area who posted on Facebook. I'm married and have a child but lovr the chance of meeting new people and fancied a walk so joined her. We hit it off and both joined a local choir. Which then meant she was meeting a whole host of other people....

How are you feeling today OP?

I've been where you are. A few months post break-up is too soon to look for another relationship. As PP said, take this time to for yourself. I started yoga and travelled (OK not ideal just now but could you plan a trip?)

The winter months are hard at the best of times. Try and get some fresh air, eat healthily and keep in touch with people, even if it's just a text. Someone on your contact list might be feeling the same and appreciate you reaching out.

You matter. Call your GP or Samaritans if these feelings don't shift.

You DO have a nice future ahead of you, you just can't see it now because of the heartache.
You look at your past, things lost, but you lost them for a reason.
For the moment, just look at today, try and keep busy with things you like, go out for a walk, stroke a dog (there's always one walking as well), whatever you would like to do.
After you're used living through one day at a time, start planning for a few days ahead, untill you're ready to face the future.
((((hugs)))) and good luck !

You are not alone. There are more of us out there feeling this way than you might imagine.