Relationship

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Hi I’m in relationship with over 3 years with a lady. And she lives abroad so different cultures etc. She always says things to hurt me and I keep telling her to stop. It’s like she don’t care. Now I do everything for this lady Financial support Holidays etc. If I say to her your words are hurting me she always says I’m not hurting you. Now we had o huge argument the other night and I hung up the phone. She message me next day saying good morning i saw the message but haven’t opened it. I hope this silent treatment will work. Because previous arguments I just text her back. And all is ok for few weeks. Then Happens again. My question is how to make this lady understand that her words are hurtful

She knows her words are hurtful.
She intends them to be hurtful.

Wake up and smell the coffee dude, she is a stone cold bitch.

Proof? If someone I care for tells me if have said or done something hurtful, I appologise and feel terrible about it. I then never repeat the behaviour. That's what ppl who care about you do. So, conclusion: She doesnt give a flying fart about you - and you need to ditch the ice queen.

Instead of resorting to emotionally abusive tactics (the silent treatment), how about taking a step back from this relationship and facing up to some facts about it -
that it's not healthy,
that you're possibly being taken for a mug financially,
and that it doesn't make you happy.
End it instead of playing silly buggers, and find someone new, preferably in the same country.

Wake up OP.

She is using you.

Stop sending her money immediately.

Find someone who is not emotionally abusive and treats you well.

Have you met her?

Yes I agree with all these comments. I’ve met her loads of times maybe 20
Times in 3 years. But I found out something the other night her 2 best friends have said she is like that to them to and they have distant themselves for her too. Now she is only child and I know these people can be difficult. I love this girl but sometimes she is so hard work. I’m lost to what time do she has a daughter from previous marriage and we get in soo good. It would be hard to say goodbye

It will be hard OP but you really must say goodbye. She is emotionally and financially abusing you.
Stop all contact, stop sending money and move on with your life.

Now she is only child and I know these people can be difficult.

Oh come on! That's bollocks. Not having siblings doesn't magically turn a reasonable human being into an unkind, manipulative user.

She's mugging you off AND treating you like crap. Get rid! Nobody deserves to be treated like this.

Thanks for the advice.big decision to make