When do you introduce a new boyfriend to your friends?

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Just that really.

Most of my friends are in long term commited relationships or marriages. I am not.

I have introduced only one man to my friends in the past few years. It was after a few months and I thought the relationship had legs. They made an effort with him, to get to know him, to invite us round etc. They treated us as a couple. It only lasted a few months more though and I broke up with him.

I've recently met someone else. It's only been a few dates so far but we like each other and I'm really embarrassed about it all!

Firstly, I'm embarrassed about the fact I'm in the early stages of dating yet again. And secondly, I'm embarrassed at the thought of introducing him to my friends at some point.

Only one of my friends was previously single. She introduced us to her new boyfriend after 4 months and, 6 years later, they're still together. He's the only man she's dated since her marriage broke up about 12 years ago.

I'm not embarrassed by him just by the situation. It feels stupid and i feel embarrassed about expecting my friends to welcome him into our fold when the likelihood is, it won't last.

Obviously, with lockdown again, it's hardly a pressing issue but I haven't even told any of my friends he exists. His friends know about me but I haven't met any of them yet.

Well you can't at the moment, I would see how the next month pans out with the lockdown. What's the rush?

I'm very sociable so if there is an event that I'd like to go to and I'm dating someone then I bring him along. Doesn't have to mean anything. Just like I would a new friend. If it lasts it lasts , if not,not a problem.

Conversely, I've had friends introduce us to the guys they were seeing, some lasted, some didnt. From a friend' s perspective, it was fun getting to know new people and putting a face to a name.

Don't overthink it.

You can’t anyway at the moment and they may not want to as not sure how you can date someone new and keep to the rules of SD etc so they may decide not to meet up anyway.

It's you that feels embarrassed because of what's happened before. Your friends won't be bothered. Tell them you're seeing someone and introduce him when you feel ready.

Reminds me of when I took a guy I'd just met to a Christmas works do. He broke contact soon after and I had to endure the embarrassment of fending off their questions about him in January.

As soon as possible so they can suss him out

Usually you find there is a natural time to introduce them and you don't even think about it, it just happens. You go to a party or the pub and he goes with you.

Well, there is no 'rush', obviously 🙄 I was just curious and trying to work through my feelings of embarrassment about it all.

As soon as possible so they can suss him out

Very wise words!

Thanks for the perspective, everyone else. Yes, it would feel like a bigger deal to me than it would them.

You are making this into a bigger deal. It does not matter if a boyfriend you introduce does not turn out to be a future husband. Nobody thinks about how many guys you've introduced to them.

I also don't think there is no need to go out of your way to introduce your bf to friends. The moment comes naturally when there is an event or a get together.