How do we get 'close' again?

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Dh and I are pretty rocky at the moment. He is away for a few days and text me that he doesn't feel close to me anymore. Text him back that we could be close again if we both made the effort. How can I start to fix this, we are away together for the weekend without children so that's a pretty good starting point. Really could use some help.

bumping for you Smiles, it's a good question (sigh)...

thanks phd, just hope someone can come up with something, I have no idea what to do!

no, me either. obviously "spend more quality time together", but don't know how to wrangle the time. And tbh, the one "date" dh and I have had since ds was born, we didn't know what to do with ourselves! You forget how to tango, don't you?

Aww phd, not great is it. Could be worse, dh and I have lots of time to ourselves, we just have no conversation etc!

hmm well maybe now's the time to take up, I dunno, bingo, or something you've both been interested in, in the past, something that will give you both a shared topic and some enthusiasm.

Have thought of this phd but he's not terribly enthusiastic about much really, not a great start I know but will have to work on him for that one. Off on school run but will check in with the hope someone comes up with something. Thanks.

mildmannered, that is exactly what we need, something to laugh about, was thinking about a comedy club or something. Thank you.

Same here - we make time together but nothing really to say. To be honest, not really sure that I enjoy it and would possibly prefer to be on my own.

In an attempt to address this, I have recently decided that what dh and I need is not more time but more excitement so am determined that next time we have a day together we are going to do something we would not normally do (I fancy horse riding). Might that help on your weekend? It might at least give you something to talk about?

how about going to see a film together (automatically gives you something to talk about) or go ten pin bowling .. where you are bound to make fools of yourselves which should end in some laughter/bonding!

Thank you all so much for the suggestions, lots to think about.

I like PeterDuck's one - is best for us as we also have no family and a wee ds who still needs 100% - can instantly also see the problem where the one free evening we've given ourselves a week, we've been watching a film - not exactly high-quality "us" time. I've been thinking along these lines for a while, this thread has really helped clarify it.

Unfortunately first we've got to sort me some more work time. (sigh)

We like listening to the same sort of music and talk about it, we go to gigs when we can, went to see keane and that was really nice, not loud and we didnt get squashed so he had his arm round me alot.