Name changed for this.
DP, fairly newish relationship between us.
He has an ex girlfriend who badgers him constantly because she's clearly not over him. He hasn't told her about me, won't block her or stop answering her calls....because he apparently really does care about her two children. He's never had children of his own so I think the time that they spent together, lived together etc, was his first taste of what fatherhood could be like. He says that if he told her about me she would flip and never let him see the kids again.
I'm trying to be understanding about this all. But when he goes over to hers to see the kids he goes off radar for the entire day. When I raised my concerns about this with him he said that he can't be seen to be glued to his phone because she's ask him who he's talking to and if she found out, blah blah blah. This sounds like bollocks to me because if he wanted to message me back he could just go to the loo or something.
A few weeks ago he even ended up staying the night there because his car 'wouldn't start'. He told me about this as it was happening via text, sent me a photo of him in bed in her spare room etc. It's since turned out that yes, there was an issue with his car that evening, but the whole thing caused me real anguish and upset at the time.
Last night he was supposed to come and see me and stay over. The plan was that in the morning he'd leave mine and go to hers because it's one of the kids birthdays. He'd hand over his present before school begins etc, and you'd think he'd leave, right?
Wrong. He called me last night and said he's ill so can't come over. That's fine. But this morning he's made a miraculous recovery and gone to deliver his ridiculously extravagant gift. And he's still at her house now. Both the kids are at school!
Tell me he's a dick and I can do better please. I'm furious with him. He's behaving like he's done nothing wrong whenever I tell him I'm done with his bollocks.