About to Call Relate

[WorkHardPlayHard1]

Hi there
we have the same issue coming up again and again in our 20 year marriage- its not feeling valued as a wife, mother of 2 , house administrator, house improvements project manager as well as bringing in 98% of business into our shared company.
My partner works extremely hard, long hours and lots of stress and I couldn't do what he does (years of built up training and skills) how do I learn to appreciate him and him me? Its really upsetting for both of us.

Am thinking about relate but worried about having a meeting in local area in case we bump into someone we know/counsellor we know which would make a sensitive topic seem worse as we are very private people.

Advice please from anyone who has gone through this?
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If you knew the counsellor personally then they wouldn’t work with you.

A huge amount of counselling is online now, you could find a private counsellor who is in a completely different area?

I don’t rate relate myself - look up family therapist - Systemic -
You don’t need to tell anyone - go out of area if your worried about bumping into people - we used to get a baby sitter and tell her we where going out for a meal.
Good luck.

I also had a terrible experience with Relate. Our counsellor was firmly of the mind that women and men should conform to gender stereotypes (woman do all the household/childcare stuff etc and be grateful to have a man) and man work hard and put his feet up when he got home. It was OUTRAGEOUS and even 'D'H at the time conceded it. It has put me off relationship counselling which is a shame.

Thank you am just looking for one now!