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Too much baggage

8 replies

Sunflowersky · 04/11/2020 19:53

Hi all...
Recently single, (well almost)
35
3dc & dog,
Not well educated but recently gained a job as a dinner lady
Is it even worth me trying to date again?
Who would want me i mean come on..
Feeling deflated
I have always wanted to get married (hopeless romantic)
Should I just forget this & give up?

OP posts:
sunnydays78 · 04/11/2020 20:02

Of course you should get out there and date. You have a secure job and a family. Think about the kind of guy you are looking for. Good luck x

AskEvans · 05/11/2020 00:48

Don't be ridiculous - of course you should date again! Concentrate on whether they are good enough for you, not the other way round!

widespreadpanic · 05/11/2020 01:20

I’m almost 50 and never married. At my age I HAVE given up. But I wish I was 35 again, at that age you have so much time to meet someone. Don’t give up!

Original poster
Sunflowersky · 05/11/2020 07:08

Thanks everyone
This has cheered me up

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 05/11/2020 07:11

So are you single or not? I wouldn't stat dating until I'd been single for a while. That would be very confusing for the children and you risk a rebound relationship. Don't be one of those women who can't live without a man. Also it's lockdown!

Original poster
Sunflowersky · 05/11/2020 07:23

Yes,
Basically
Im not dating or thinking about dating now of course.
Im just worrying/ overthinking about the future 🥺

OP posts:
category12 · 05/11/2020 07:26

Don't date while you feel like that about yourself, you'll end up with the absolute dregs of men interested in you and tolerating crappy treatment.

Have some time off from men, build up your self esteem and self belief, and start seeing yourself as a worthy and cool person.

Learn to be happy on your own, so that when you start dating it's because it would be fun, not needing some bloke, any bloke. And so that if you met a likely partner, you'd be weighing up how much he added to your happiness, rather than being grateful for any attention.

Concentrate on building a happy life as you are, worry about cock later.

SpongeWorthy · 05/11/2020 12:47

@category12

Don't date while you feel like that about yourself, you'll end up with the absolute dregs of men interested in you and tolerating crappy treatment.

Have some time off from men, build up your self esteem and self belief, and start seeing yourself as a worthy and cool person.

Learn to be happy on your own, so that when you start dating it's because it would be fun, not needing some bloke, any bloke. And so that if you met a likely partner, you'd be weighing up how much he added to your happiness, rather than being grateful for any attention.

Concentrate on building a happy life as you are, worry about cock later.

This is fantastic advice Thanks
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