Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Help me

3 replies

BigTWDFan · 04/11/2020 15:53

Ok, so i'm struggling with myself a lately. I had a miscarriage last year, and this year my husband was made redundant, i had problems with my pregnancy, my baby was induced 3 weeks early, 11 weeks after birth, i was rushed into a&e with imflammed pancreatis and had my galbladder out, we had problems in house and... well i feel so lost, i suffer greatly with depression and anxiety, i'm on meds and counciling doesn't work with me.
My main issue thats bothering me is that my husband, told me i'm not affectionate anymore, he asked why, and just now he was trying to kiss me but he walked away saying i wouldn't kiss him back. I'm so confused about myself these days, i hardly have the chance to think because i have 3 kids and i always tell him i love him.
Surely someone has been through this or can give me some advice, i'm honestly so confused and lost inside my head. He knows this, but he is very affectionate, and i'm starting to think i'm a cold hearted witch.

OP posts:
Inthesameboatatmo · 04/11/2020 16:06

Oh op , I didnt want to read and run. You have been through a lot in a very short space of time though so be kind to yourself.

Depression and anxiety is awful and the help for mental health in this country is the biggest shit show of the century.
I have never suffered personally with it but my husband (separated) has sufferer all his life and when he was really bad he wouldn't show any affection at all ,wouldn't even try to make am effort and that is hurtful even though I knew he couldn't help it at times ut still really got to me . Maybe you could have a talk with your husband about your feelings as he will be affected by it definitely.

On a side note my husband was only given basic antidepressants my the gp but was much better after he finally got a referral to adult cahms and put in stronger meds, we did have to fight for it though and it took a fair while . Maybe you need stronger medication and some cbt as well.
Good luck

Inthesameboatatmo · 04/11/2020 16:10

Sorry just realised you said you've tried counselling, it doesn't work for everyone .

SoulofanAggron · 04/11/2020 17:44

There are dozens of different meds they can try, speak to your dr/consultant again and let them know how you feel. Keep going back until they find the right one for you.

There are also many different types of therapy you can try. xxx

New posts on this thread. Refresh page