Hi All :)
Not sure if I am expecting many responses or if I have come here simply for a rant, but I am completely fed up with dealing with a self centred, obsessive and overly intense work colleague!
I feel like a complete bitch because this is a woman who has no outside of work social life or hobbies and so desperately wants work colleagues to be besties with. But she is completely self centred and needs constant reassurance and communication. She is so unbelievably intense and a huge part of her conversation topics are around bitching about other people at work, which i really CBA with!
The main issues are that the conversation is 95% about her. I've been so understanding but it is exhausting and draining. Other people have distanced themselves from this person for the same reasons, which is sad but also understandable. I wanted to help her so she is happier outside of work and finds some friends / love interests away from the workplace, but she just doesn't seem to want to try!
It makes me feel so guilty but with a busy life, friends and a baby on the way, I just do not have time for a one way friendship with someone from work. Due to family commitments, my husband and I barely see our actual friends! Besides spelling it out (which would be incredibly awkward as we work together), I have reduced responses that aren't on email or actual work topics and avoided meeting up.
It is just not what I need right now!!!
How do I even tell her to back off?
Rant over.