Hi
Need some advice please, I have been married for five years , marriage is reasonably strong, we go out as a couple and on our own.
My wife’s best friend lives 20 miles away and due to the Covid situation she stays over and comes back the next day , she has done this for a a year or two but recently the nights out have been a lot more frequent.
Recently she has changed a little , she admitted that her friend who is single has invited 3-5 people back from the pub for a house party.
She showed me a video of a night out where she looked not with it, which looked like more like she had done some drugs not alcohol.
I confronted her the other day she said she had done coke once but she didn’t like it.
I was annoyed as she didn’t admit it till I asked her, I asked her to be honest with me and tell me what you get upto on a night out/away.
I also didn’t like the fact men was coming back from the pub and also doing drink/drugs, she says nothing is going on and I believe I her, she knew I didn’t like the drugs and mostly men coming over for the house party.
I don’t believe her with the drugs, I have been hiding a recording device in the house and most of what she told me is true , but she is lying about doing the drugs I found two rizlas In her handbag.
I get in well with my wife’s friend and I have heard her say she would like me to go on the night out, about 2-3 times we had planned to go and it got cancelled, once my wife made it obvious she didn’t want me to go.she wasn’t well once etc.
When my wife goes out I go out with my friends locally so I am back later that night .
She went for a stop over a few days ago and two men came back with my wife and friend.
I Asked her next day when she came back and she said it was just her and her friend, i know that not to be true as I hid outside my wife’s friends and seen who went in the house,
I have checked her phone the WhatsApp group chat comments on my wife’s phone have been deleted , the message from her friend was still there, one of the comments is get lost with your coke and wife put don’t say anything.
It’s obvious she is lying but I don’t know how to handle this.
We have a good strong relationship before I was married I gambled to much my wife found out it left us short of money and she stood by me. I attend gamblers anonymous regularly and haven’t gambled in years.
One last thing she has the same planned for Tommorow as it will be the last night before the lockdown.
Don’t know what to do?
Apologies if the grammar isn’t great.