No passion....for him anyway!

[Asstastic78]

Been with DP for about 18 months and our sex life is just shit! There is zero passion, very little snogging, maybe get it once a week and even then I have to beg for it.

He's on anxiety tablets which does impact his sex drive but I just want to get bent over the desk and f*^ked with some passion and desire you know.

AIBU?

If it was the woman not wanting sex and the bloke being a sex pest, the bloke would get crucified! I'm being the sex pest!!

Help!

End it. You are wasting your time.

if you're not compatible you're not compatible.

He's not that into you sorry.

I’d walk away too OP. DH lost his sex drive 10 years ago, it’s fucking miserable but I’m staying for the DC. Don’t make the same mistake I have.

I disagree that he’s not into you. If he’s on tablets for anxiety, that could impact on his libido. He might not have a high sex drive.

Your decision is whether you can cope with a sexless relationship or not.

Has it always been like this? If so then what else are you getting out of it?

If not, have you talked to him about it?

Talk to him and if no luck then end it. 18 months in you should still be at it like rabbits! It’s not going to get better

Our honeymoon period lasted about 3 months! He said 'he doesn't want to get bored' but the sex really is boring (although he always makes me cum!) but because he's a 3 position man rather than because of me being boring. I'm a real filth bag and he doesn't tap into that side of me AT ALL! It's 20 min once a week if I'm lucky!

I've asked time and time again if he isn't into me and he always says he is, but now it's getting to a point when I just cba even getting upset and I now cba to have sex with him because he's just pushing me away! It's making me switch off emotionally.

Compatibility is great when we don't mention the physical aspects.

Ive sought the support of a sex therapist but he won't see her.

There is so much love, so why can't we have the sex too 😩

Compatibility is great when we don't mention the physical aspects

The sex part is clearly a major part of a whole relationship to you though. You've said its even causing you to switch off emotionally.

This relationship clearly isn't for you, even though you want it to be.

If the sexual spark is not there after 18 months it is never going to be. You are going to get more unhappy and more resentful. Think you might have to make a decision to leave this man

@Bettereveryday1

He's not that into you sorry.

Bullshit, and not a very nice thing to post at all. When I went on the pill, it completely killed my sex drive (which was ironic, given that I went on the bloody thing so I could have sex safely and freely!). I love my partner, and this never changed, but I simply didn't want sex. I eventually came off the pill and things are getting back to normal as my hormones change. To say that someone's 'not that into you' because they don't want sex isn't always true, so don't be so horrible.

OP: It could be his meds, but even if it isn't, you might not be right for him if this is how you're feeling. A big different in sex drive often turns out to be insurmountable .. but you need to talk to him about it. You've not mentioned anything about the rest of your relationship, how you are together, how you both feel about each other, etc. Sex is only one aspect of a relationship, but if you're not happy with it, and there's no sign of things changing, it seems likely that you would (both!) be better off in different relationships.