Sulking DH

[Holyjebus]

This is really driving me mad! DH is acting like a bloody teenager.
Every other week he sulks over me drinking wine and won't speak to me for a solid week. I just ignore him and leave him too it.
We have two small boys so we will speak only if it's to do with them.
He crawls back eventually with a hug but will never discuss the underlying issue!
I drink behind his back because he hates me drinking. I'm so mild that he never notices I've been drinking but every now and again he'll find an empty bottle of wine and so begins the sulking.
I wish he would just sit down and discuss it like a normal adult.
I'm at the end of my tether with him!

It's really hard to advise op. You're being a little vague about how much you drink. There's a big difference between having 2 glasses 3 days a week and having 3 glasses 4 days a week , also , how large are the glasses?

So there's ways of looking at this. Either your husband is judging you because you like wine at all , or he could be genuinely concerned about your intake.

Maybe you should track your units over a week to work out how much you're honestly having.

Good luck.

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There seem to be two issues op
Yeah you probably do drink more than is ideal but you're an adult and it's your choice. The main problem is your husband sulking not discussing things. It's abusive to stonewall you every time you do something he doesn't like

You come from a family of regular drinkers.
You gave up drinking once for three months and were "miserable".
You need a drink to "unwind" at night and you also drink when you are "bored".
You drink 2 or 3 or 4 glasses a day.
You are the sole carer for two small children.
If you were a child minder I would remove the children from your care.
You are lucky your husband is only "sulking" and not consulting a solicitor.

Sounds like either you can't see what he can see and he is worried that you are becoming an alcoholic.
The way you describe your drinking is very much like an alcoholic.
To me it's wrong that he doesn't talk to you about it but at the same time it doesn't sound like you are going to be open to have an honest conversation.
Start by counting your units a week that will be a great indication of how much you actually drink.
I had to cut sugar as I could see how addictive it is. I crave it all the time but has to be done.

Folks, she could be drinking 4 bottles a day and his behaviour would STILL NOT BE OKAY. OP, do not capitulate to your DH just to stop his sulking. He will only find other things to sulk about and you will forever be walking on eggshells trying to guess how to behave to keep him from being abusive. If he has a problem with your drinking then he should talk to you about it.

If you think you are drinking too much then it is up to you to change that.

I think rather than sulking you both need to sit down and discuss the wine situation!

@Sunflower1970

I think rather than sulking you both need to sit down and discuss the wine situation!

One person sulking means that one person refuses to sit down and discuss the situation. That's why she posted about the sulking. It blocks any discussion.