Ex husband and DS.

[Theodoreb]

DS aged 14 has been growing his hair out since December, he tried growing it before but his dad made so many derogatory comments that my son cut it and was then upset. So this time he's determined not to cut it but his dad keeps making horrid comments and while DS is older now so laughs at them it's really upsetting me I don't understand why he can't just leave DS to have his hair how he wants it.

If your son is able to laugh it off, then you should be able to ignore. Not for your ex-h but for your own mental health. You sound like a nice mum so continue to support your son’s happiness and just ignore your ex-h. If he carries on like that then your son won’t want much to do with him soon anyway

If your son is n’t upset there’s no reason for you to be.

I'm just worried his dad will talk him into cutting it again, and that him saying he's not upset is a front.

If their relationship is good apart from this, I’d stay out of it. To be honest it sounds like a power struggle between the 3 of you.

@Theodoreb

I'm just worried his dad will talk him into cutting it again, and that him saying he's not upset is a front.

Again - still worrying about what your ex will do. Let go of this.

Speak to your son, so long as he understands he can be open with you about how he feels he will be fine.