DD and her Dad

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My partner (DD’s dad) and my DD can clash a lot and it can be exhausting. She’s 8. He’s quite a moody person who can quickly become angry in his tone often without good reason. She’s fiery and knows her own mind and so when mixed together, it’s hard work. Today she was out on the driveway playing with a friend and the next moment he drags her in by her arm with her screaming because she was apparently sitting on the floor outside. She told him she’s fallen over but regardless, she was bought in crying and screaming with him grounding her. It’s his word against hers with everything.

Sitting on the floor? FFS

I'd put him out of the house and divorce him. He's an adult and he should act like one. That one incident you described is abusive. Why on earth would he drag her in screaming at her like that? Because she was sitting on the ground while playing with a friend?

That's abuse, you wouldn't tolerate him treating you like that. Don't let him abuse your child. Find your spine and protect her.

Your partner is physically abusive to your child and you should be protecting her

That’s absolutely awful! How often does he treat her like that?

That's daft. Even if she had chosen to sit on the ground, why on earth make a moral issue of it?

At most, you stick your head out of the door and say "sweetheart, don't sit on the ground you'll get your clothes mucky / get cold".... but (a) that's what casual clothes are for and (b) she'll soon learn.

This anecdote paints your partner as obsessively controlling and physically abusive. It's not a good look.

And sitting on the ground is a serious crime because...?
And you let him behave like this because...?

OP is your partner crazy? Even as an adult I sometimes sit on the ground and it's completely normal for children when they play outside. Let your child be a child FFS.

What on Earth?? What's wrong with sitting on the floor? He sounds controlling

I never understand people making a big deal out of children sitting on the ground or getting dirty clothes

Utterly awful behaviour. In front of her friends too. Abusive OP. She's a young child. My Dad was like this. Im almost 40 and still dont like being alone with him.

Hmm, ignore all the he said, she said - what do you know to be true about this incident? I don't understand why the child was brought in for sitting on the drive?

"Why am I allowing this abuse to happen?"

That's the question you should be asking yourself.

What’s wrong with her sitting on the ground?

Sounds like a battle of wills taking place

If he actually dragged her into the house like that for sitting on the ground, you need to wake up and realise your DP is an abusive twat.

Bizzare

She is a child. He is the adult.

He's dragging her around physically and bad-tempered and inconsistent. He needs to sort his shit out. Why are you accepting living with a bullying angry bastard?

You're in for a world of pain if he can't handle being a decent parent when the child is 8 - how exactly do you see her teenaged years going? She's going to run away from home or as soon as she can, she'll move out and be estranged from you both.

His word against hers? FFS

Even if she was sitting on the ground and denied it, so fucking what? He’s a horrible abusive bastard to a little girl. Do your job as a mother and get rid of him.

I don’t even know what advice you’re looking for. Seems pretty damn obvious.